jamaicalovely
Well-Known Member
Okay girls, I figure I ask you before I make a complete fool of myself.
Kinda long....sorry.erplexed
I miss an old girlfriend of mine. Her husband and my husband are very close friends. They moved to Atlanta 2 years ago from our hometown (Philly) and we were always together on the weekends. She has three beautiful kids I joust adore! Her husband is a truck driver and she's alone with the kids 75% of the time. Her father in law lives down here, but he's a truck driver too. I think she made one friend in addition to me after she moved down here.
We fell out earlier in the year when she was not happy down here and called me to vent. Here's how the convo went:
F = Friend JL = Me
F: "Girl I'm sick of being down here. I have no help. I don't know how to get around. Baby is sick and had to take him to ER. I want to go to school I'm bored, I want to work."
JL : "God brought you down here for a reason. I offered to help, even invited you to church with me. For some reason, when the day came, you were no where to be found. It's been 2 years, why don't you have a Peditrician for your children yet?! Get a map and drive around, no one is going to hold your hand to get you acclimated to ATL. I gave you resources to look for/contact schools, have you called? I gave you a template to create your goals, where are you on that? Why don't you find a part time job or volunteer a little during the week."
I detailed the convo so you can see how she felt and how I carried the situation. I operate on tough love and according to her...I hurt her feelings.
After that conversation, she never answered my calls or emails. I called her one day and she texted me to say that she was fine and that she was taking time out. I thought she needed time for a few days, not almost a year. I've apologized numerous times!
I mss my friend and want to be there for her, especially since her husband is away all the time. We were support for each other. I'm really surprised that our husbands haven't forced us to communicate again.
So, the question is....
Should I respect her decision and let her go since obviously she feels better not having me around as a friend? Or should I reach to her again and honestly tell her that I miss having her as a friend and would like to rebuild our friendship in '09?
Your thoughts.
Kinda long....sorry.erplexed
I miss an old girlfriend of mine. Her husband and my husband are very close friends. They moved to Atlanta 2 years ago from our hometown (Philly) and we were always together on the weekends. She has three beautiful kids I joust adore! Her husband is a truck driver and she's alone with the kids 75% of the time. Her father in law lives down here, but he's a truck driver too. I think she made one friend in addition to me after she moved down here.
We fell out earlier in the year when she was not happy down here and called me to vent. Here's how the convo went:
F = Friend JL = Me
F: "Girl I'm sick of being down here. I have no help. I don't know how to get around. Baby is sick and had to take him to ER. I want to go to school I'm bored, I want to work."
JL : "God brought you down here for a reason. I offered to help, even invited you to church with me. For some reason, when the day came, you were no where to be found. It's been 2 years, why don't you have a Peditrician for your children yet?! Get a map and drive around, no one is going to hold your hand to get you acclimated to ATL. I gave you resources to look for/contact schools, have you called? I gave you a template to create your goals, where are you on that? Why don't you find a part time job or volunteer a little during the week."
I detailed the convo so you can see how she felt and how I carried the situation. I operate on tough love and according to her...I hurt her feelings.
After that conversation, she never answered my calls or emails. I called her one day and she texted me to say that she was fine and that she was taking time out. I thought she needed time for a few days, not almost a year. I've apologized numerous times!
I mss my friend and want to be there for her, especially since her husband is away all the time. We were support for each other. I'm really surprised that our husbands haven't forced us to communicate again.
So, the question is....
Should I respect her decision and let her go since obviously she feels better not having me around as a friend? Or should I reach to her again and honestly tell her that I miss having her as a friend and would like to rebuild our friendship in '09?
Your thoughts.