If he were to be given orders overseas, we'd be getting married. If circumstances pushed to set aside the importance of us "marrying properly" in a formal ceremony, as he wants it, we'd get married. Then why wait and not marry you now?
We have plans to get married and are semi-engaged, but he wants a proper wedding, not a random date with the JOP. But the JOP is going to be good enough if he gets deployed?
He's already asked my father for my hand in marriage and his family is well aware of his intentions. It's not a random relationship going nowhere.
And just because I'm married wouldn't make this place any more appreciable. Don't fool yourself on this one. You would have access to way more opportunities as his spouse than his girlfriend. There are support groups, activities on post you can participate with and a whole bunch of other stuff that you could be utilize that will make things much more bearable. Part of being a military wife is being able to survive in the desolate places and they have programs on base designed just for that.
All I would get is health benefits and some job preference. I already get the other benefits I need by working as a contractor on base. But they would be free instead of you paying for them.
Example: I was really sick and he was TDY, his squadron took me to the doctor even though I wasn't married to him, so I've been blessed. What happens when they don't come to help the next time?
I don't care about "moving back home" because I moved away for a reason in the first place. We have dealt with our relationship when we were hours apart from one another, and honestly, it's not that bad.
I don't have my own transportation simply because I just would rather handle my debt.
This town is a very rural town. If this place were more metro, and not as conservative, I wouldn't have such an issue. But please google clovis nm and see what comes up.
Security is not an issue, I have measures if I really need to be taken care of. I'm not THAT isolated, I just feel the stress of being HERE. It's just THIS place in particular that I hate.
My relationship is not on the brink, lol, I have it quite good, I'm just not feeling this town and what it LACKS to offer. Once you drive off base, life just SUCKS here.