Metro or Gay???

TinyBlu

TinyBlu

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...so I REALLY tried to step out of my comfort zone during my last dating experience by dating a guy that went against my "list". He was short, a different race and younger.

Even though he was a nice guy, certain things....concerned me and ended up being enough of a turn off for me to call it quits.

So... I need opinions: Would you date a guy that waxed his eyebrows and got manicures weekly? How about a man that was OBSESSED with his waist size (28 inches and he still didn't like it). What about a man that spent 3 hours in the gym at one time at least 5 times a week (and he was just really cut-hardly a Mr. Olympia). What about a man that kept comparing his body to other men's-especially their abs and chest? What about a man that shaved ALL of his body hair? What about a man that liked to shop more than you did? What about a man who groomed constantly or spent more time in the mirror than you did? What about a man that scouted outfits before going out?

Are we noticing a pattern here? I am all for some basic man-scaping, and I don't want a Neanderthal, but this guy was just too prissy for me.

Add that to the fact that he was Latin, LOVED the Twighlight trilogy and going out to Salsa clubs ALL THE TIME, and I just figured he was just plain old GAY and didn't know it.

I ended up breaking it off before I came home to find him in my panties and heels, but wondered what you thought....
 
Manicures are okay and working out, but the other stuff you mentioned IDK. He sounds like Price and Prince loves women. Girl IDK. Some of the stuff you described sounds like what women compare to other women such as compating body types, and shaving body hair. You mean he has no facial hair at all???? No facial hair is a no no that is not okay.
 
Well, in this case I don't think it matters what you call him...metro, gay, or whatever...

...he just AIN'T IT. lol
 
My gaydar needle is leaning toward "Gay." But honestly, if he's so into his/other men's bodies that he doesn't notice you, it doesn't matter whether he's gay or not. I say you did the right thing, too.
 
natural2008 said:
Manicures are okay and working out, but the other stuff you mentioned IDK. He sounds like Price and Prince loves women. Girl IDK. Some of the stuff you described sounds like what women compare to other women such as compating body types, and shaving body hair. You mean he has no facial hair at all???? No facial hair is a no no that is not okay.
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None at all. He shaves his face and his ENTIRE body....even his head. He even keeps residual tweezers around in case of a stray.... CREEPY!!!
 
Pat Mnahurr said:
My gaydar needle is leaning toward "Gay." But honestly, if he's so into his/other men's bodies that he doesn't notice you, it doesn't matter whether he's gay or not. I say you did the right thing, too.
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Well, he noticed me, but was especially impressed with my hind parts (I can give Kim K a run for her money) which also made me nervous, and he was so obsessed with my looks... always complementing me on my outfits and makeup.

Do straight guys notice that stuff? I even started joking with him about it (saying things like that is SOOOO GAY), and he swore he wasn't.

He's still young. I think he is going to have an experience and figure it out.
 
TinyBlu said:
None at all. He shaves his face and his ENTIRE body....even his head. He even keeps residual tweezers around in case of a stray.... CREEPY!!!
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Aaahhhhhhhhh hell no he does not shave his whole body and keep tweezzers around. You did right as he is obviously not into women.
 
If he aint Gay then he is a good imposter. I think the only time men notice clothes is when they are trying to figure out how to get women out of them.
 
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Could be his culture. When I went to PR, the first thing I noticed was that all of the men that appeared to be younger than 30 had their eyebrows done and looked very groomed the way you describe. They were all pretty looking men (think Jay Manuel from top model w/out the make up).

Now with that said, I couldn't be the woman on the other end of that. It is too much for me.
 
TinyBlu said:
Well, he noticed me, but was especially impressed with my hind parts (I can give Kim K a run for her money) which also made me nervous, and he was so obsessed with my looks... always complementing me on my outfits and makeup.

Do straight guys notice that stuff? I even started joking with him about it (saying things like that is SOOOO GAY), and he swore he wasn't.

He's still young. I think he is going to have an experience and figure it out.
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Yes...

Nail done, hair done, every thing done...Orgasm blush Lipstick ‘n concealer...I love the way you put it together-Drake
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It's just becoming more acceptable for guys to point out they things they notice and appreciate about a woman.

The guy you mentioned though? I'm not sure...I would check him out though.
 
No thanks.................... I would never date someone who would take longer than me to get ready, or who would want to push me away from the mirror so that he could look at himself. I like being the only Queen in my castle:grin:
 
Regardless that wouldn't interest me. Some man scaping, sure but all out hours of obsession, nah. But I also (though I like to dress well), like easy maintenance. I can be out in ten minutes (after shower) if my hair is flat ironed and wrapped or in braids: throw on lip gloss, possible mascara, take down wrap or not if in braids and pick out a cute outfit, throw it on and leave. So a guy who is constantly in the mirror or asking me about how he looks would be a no no.

I was attracted to this guy a few years ago, who was interested in me kinda a cuter Simon Baker (from the mentalist)...accent and all. Well he was very intelligent and fun but he kept asking me if I thought his waist was too big (uhm he had washboard abs). And then one day when he said, "I think I'm getting fat". I was like:nono:

On that day all attraction for him was gone. I couldn't possibly deal with his insecurities every five minutes. He kept asking me out and I kept turning him down. But he kept doing things like that whenever he was around me. And he'd stare in the mirror, and re arrange his hair.

So a guy like you described would not do it for me either. I need a low maintenance man.:grin:
 
his sexuality is irrelevant. but it would be a no-go for me because all that grooming is too much. i don't even do all that.:nono:
 
TinyBlu said:
...so I REALLY tried to step out of my comfort zone during my last dating experience by dating a guy that went against my "list". He was short, a different race and younger.

Even though he was a nice guy, certain things....concerned me and ended up being enough of a turn off for me to call it quits.

So... I need opinions: Would you date a guy that waxed his eyebrows and got manicures weekly? How about a man that was OBSESSED with his waist size (28 inches and he still didn't like it). What about a man that spent 3 hours in the gym at one time at least 5 times a week (and he was just really cut-hardly a Mr. Olympia). What about a man that kept comparing his body to other men's-especially their abs and chest? What about a man that shaved ALL of his body hair? What about a man that liked to shop more than you did? What about a man who groomed constantly or spent more time in the mirror than you did? What about a man that scouted outfits before going out?

Are we noticing a pattern here? I am all for some basic man-scaping, and I don't want a Neanderthal, but this guy was just too prissy for me.

Add that to the fact that he was Latin, LOVED the Twighlight trilogy and going out to Salsa clubs ALL THE TIME, and I just figured he was just plain old GAY and didn't know it.

I ended up breaking it off before I came home to find him in my panties and heels, but wondered what you thought....
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I think he's obsessively trying to make up for his height... :yep:
 
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