Mending Friendships

Give it a try and see how it goes!

Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't.

I'm currently rebuilding a friendship with a BFF I haven't spoken to in almost 5 years.
 
I wonder the same. I guess it's a matter whether both parties want to or not, just like romantic relationships.

For example I used to be close with someone who unintentionally but repeatedly did things to hurt me. How we defined friendship was clearly different. I couldn't expect any different from her. One situation upset me so that I decided to walk away. Its been two years now and I miss her soooooo much.

Since, she's bought a home, went to law school and is flourishing beautifully. While I'm open to rekindling or mending what we had, I think our time has passed quite frankly. It would be romantic to think that somehow it can work but...doubt it. I'm not sure there's a measurable benefit to either one of us.
 
It would depend on how broken the relationship was. Some things just can't be repaired.
 
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Fine 4s said:
I wonder the same. I guess it's a matter whether both parties want to or not, just like romantic relationships.

For example I used to be close with someone who unintentionally but repeatedly did things to hurt me. How we defined friendship was clearly different. I couldn't expect any different from her. One situation upset me so that I decided to walk away. Its been two years now and I miss her soooooo much.

Since, she's bought a home, went to law school and is flourishing beautifully. While I'm open to rekindling or mending what we had, I think our time has passed quite frankly. It would be romantic to think that somehow it can work but...doubt it. I'm not sure there's a measurable benefit to either one of us.
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Why do you think your time has passed?
 
I am doing this right now. We were both in the place to admit our wrongs and more importantly, MOVE ON. It's great. It's not the same as before, but hey we are almost a decade older. We have a wonderful time together and it's very much worth it.
 
It's possible. My BFF and I had a big fall out and stopped talking for 3.5 whole years. I never thought we would be friends again after everything that happened and the things that were said. After all that we started speaking again and decided to take it slow and I personally didn't think we would be able to go back to the way we use to be but we're closer than ever now. Of course it depends on the situation but the fall out in my case was huge, most people would write their friend off and never look back...
 
It's never too late to mend a friendship if you can fit into each others' lives.:ohwell: I fell out of contact with my HS/college BFF even though we still live in the same city. We're both really busy. But all it took was me inviting her to my birthday party and catching up for us get back to being as close as we were.:yep:

Why the friendship ended is really important. I can't ever see myself mending my friendship with some of my former college friends because of how things ended in the first place. My standard for friendship has changed and they don't meet it.:nono:
 
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