Men can value you, doesn’t necessarily mean they are truly in love with you.
It depends on what is being valued. With certain values, depending on power differential of the man... a woman will have to be smart from the get go.
If a man values looks and youth, then if you are the first wife, know there is a time clock. While the new love is fresh and you have influence, make wise decisions.
Regardless of what a man says.... put your needs and values forefront. The man who wants to be with you will adjust.