Men and Drug Usage

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lushcoils

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Overheard a conversation:

One friend was arguing that one of her dealbreakers was that she wants a man doesn't do drugs at all. It's okay if he did some in the past, but she wants one that is done with that lifestyle, including weed.

The other friend was arguing that it was impossible to find a guy like that nowadays. She says that most men smoke weed at least, and do it every once and awhile, and that she'll be single for a long time with that requirement.

What do you think?
 
Deal BREAKER. I don't even want a man that smokes weed. No thank you. Cigarettes, weed, "harder" drugs, and excessive drinking are deal breakers for me.
 
obviously not all men do drugs.

occasional weed isn't a dealbreaker for me. but i do think you are dumb as hell if you are a black man and smoke weed.
 
Some men have never tried any type of drugs and don't smoke cigarettes. Again it's one of those things that depends on who she is meeting and what circles she's around.
 
Where do these women live?! And how often have they traveled outside of their neighborhood?
 
I'd date a man who smoked weed before I'd date a man who smoked cigarettes. Either way, the girl in the OP is wrong, I've met more men who haven't smoked than I met men who have.
 
I've MET my share of men who do not do drugs and men who DO use drugs (weed smokers) I understand where both of your friends are coming from. I've been in the dating game a long arse time and you wouldn't believe the men in their 30's and 40's who are still smoking weed like it's okay. And mind you these are men who would otherwise be considered good men. It's pretty insane what you come across these days.
 
Brighteyes35 said:
I've MET my share of men who do not do drugs and men who DO use drugs (weed smokers) I understand where both of your friends are coming from. I've been in the dating game a long arse time and you wouldn't believe the men in their 30's and 40's who are still smoking weed like it's okay. And mind you these are men who would otherwise be considered good men. It's pretty insane what you come across these days.
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i def agree there is an age limit. just like when people are younger, they may drink more. but a 30 y/o that gets frat party drunk every weekend...not cute (not that it's cute at 21 either but even more unattractive).
 
Next we will be asking too much if we demand that he can read.

Come on now. Besides all the health issues that accompany drug use, the ish is illegal. Haven't we heard enough stories about sistas getting locked up for 20 years because Jody left a bag of weed or something worse in the car?
 
lushcoils said:
Overheard a conversation:

One friend was arguing that one of her dealbreakers was that she wants a man doesn't do drugs at all. It's okay if he did some in the past, but she wants one that is done with that lifestyle, including weed.

The other friend was arguing that it was impossible to find a guy like that nowadays. She says that most men smoke weed at least, and do it every once and awhile, and that she'll be single for a long time with that requirement.

What do you think?
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Where da hell that silly arse in the last paragraph hang at? Cuz she is dumb as a sack of rocks! :nono:
 
Well my mom is "dating" a man that's into drugs and I don't like it. I feel like he may somehow influence her and then she will become a drug user. She's not listening to me, she just insists that because she's so religious nothing bad can happen to her. As much as I'm going through right now, that would be the LAST thing I need. Sad to say, I wouldn't want anything else to do with her if that should happen.
 
Angelinhell said:
Well my mom is "dating" a man that's into drugs and I don't like it. I feel like he may somehow influence her and then she will become a drug user. She's not listening to me, she just insists that because she's so religious nothing bad can happen to her. As much as I'm going through right now, that would be the LAST thing I need. Sad to say, I wouldn't want anything else to do with her if that should happen.
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I hope your mom will see the light...pray for dude and keep it moving.
 
TayMac said:
I hope your mom will see the light...pray for dude and keep it moving.
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Going through it. I don't care what anyone says weed is a drug. If you're a regular weed smoker and you get upset because one day you can't get to smoke--then you are addicted. How do you get this type of person some help?? Especially if they are your verbally abusive spouse?
 
lushcoils said:
Overheard a conversation:

One friend was arguing that one of her dealbreakers was that she wants a man doesn't do drugs at all. It's okay if he did some in the past, but she wants one that is done with that lifestyle, including weed.

The other friend was arguing that it was impossible to find a guy like that nowadays. She says that most men smoke weed at least, and do it every once and awhile, and that she'll be single for a long time with that requirement.

What do you think?
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I hate drugs. Cigarette , weed, alcohol--abuse of the three is awful to me. I still can't understand how I stayed married to someone for ten years who is a heavy weed smoker and occasionally abuses alcohol
 
Angelinhell said:
Well my mom is "dating" a man that's into drugs and I don't like it. I feel like he may somehow influence her and then she will become a drug user. She's not listening to me, she just insists that because she's so religious nothing bad can happen to her. As much as I'm going through right now, that would be the LAST thing I need. Sad to say, I wouldn't want anything else to do with her if that should happen.
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[USER]Angelinhell [/USER]
(sigh)
Been there.
Anyone who is telling themselves this kind of stuff about a drug user, is in denial. Do what you have to do.
 
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lushcoils said:
Overheard a conversation:

One friend was arguing that one of her dealbreakers was that she wants a man doesn't do drugs at all. It's okay if he did some in the past, but she wants one that is done with that lifestyle, including weed.

The other friend was arguing that it was impossible to find a guy like that nowadays. She says that most men smoke weed at least, and do it every once and awhile, and that she'll be single for a long time with that requirement.

What do you think?
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What in the hoodrat hell? Some people are just so short sighted it's hilarious.
 
lushcoils said:
Overheard a conversation:

One friend was arguing that one of her dealbreakers was that she wants a man doesn't do drugs at all. It's okay if he did some in the past, but she wants one that is done with that lifestyle, including weed.

The other friend was arguing that it was impossible to find a guy like that nowadays. She says that most men smoke weed at least, and do it every once and awhile, and that she'll be single for a long time with that requirement.

What do you think?
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Totally false. Every man I have ever dated was drug and cigarette free.
 
I know every man doesn't do drugs BUT I don't know what it is I always seem to find ones that smoke that ganja! Geez SMDH...from the barely graduated high school to the college educated ones. They either do it every blue moon or every day like drinking water AND they always feel comfortable enough to pull that ish out in front of me like its nothing. I don't know how many times I had to explain I don't do that and I don't like it done around me.
 
Omg seriously??? Not only are there women who believe all men cheat, but also that all men do some type of drugs?? :perplexed It all makes sense now! I'd probably put up with foolishness too if I believed that crap. :nono:
 
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There are plenty of men who don't smoke weed, do drugs, or drink to excess and unfortunately there are plenty of men that do.

And let me tell you, it has nothing to do with income bracket, job status, geography, none of that. I have been shocked beyond shocked to see folks who are clearly UE, of all races, whip out a joint or a pipe at their house, in their car, in MY car (until i through a hissy), at a concert....

But I don't think any woman will have a problem finding a man who doesn't abuse. Just another thing to screen for.
 
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