spritex
New Member
Hi all
I have only started posting but have lurked here for a while.
a bit about me I am a Mum in my mid thirties with 8-10 inches of super corse, kinly 4b/c natural hair. I have been on the natural path for about 3 years after relaxing for over 20 years. At first having no access to sites like this I had NO IDEA at all what to do woth my hair so kept in under full head weaves. Gradually I realised these were dmamging and started researching hair care and stumbled upon this site. In many ways it has been a revelation - knowing that our hair can be so beautiful, grow strong and long and MOST important can be managed quite easily. My problem is that mine seems to follow its own path. Its very uneven - the nape is only2 iinches, the edges are thin and fragile. I have followed tips and advice - deep conditioning regularly, minimal heat, protective styling yet I do not feel I have made any real progress. I tried wigging it for 8 months keeping the hair under cornrowed yet all that did was eat up my edges (though I bought this product called comfi-grip which is supposed to protect edges - its used for chemotherapy patients). I then cornrowed (with attachnments) for a couple of months, redoing every month but again I think it may be putting starin on my egdes so I cannot risk it as a longterm low maintainance option. I have tried leaving my hair out but despite mositurising, etc it is as hard as stone after a few hours, with knots, tangles and impossible to comb. I have been avoiding relaxers not because I have anything against them but I feel they may make things worse but I am so frustrated now I will try anything. It seem slike the relaxed journey did my hair no favours but eqaully the natural journey has not been smooth by a long shot. I do not know what to do anymore and have reached a stage where I almost feel this hair is NOT a blessing, I mean, why does it have to be so difficult to manage? I would sincerely appreciate any advise you ladies can offer. Thanks in advance.
God bless
Sprite.
PS - these are some of the products I have used over time -
henna (in my bid to keep it as natural as possible but it dries out my hair), oyin products (ordered at great expense from USA - I live in the UK), anita grant butters, miss key 10 in 1 cond, ORS mayo, elasta qp cond, amla oil, coconut oil, castor oil, CON (green) shampoo, aubrey organics HSR cond, BT, dr miracle oil for my egdes.
I have only started posting but have lurked here for a while.
a bit about me I am a Mum in my mid thirties with 8-10 inches of super corse, kinly 4b/c natural hair. I have been on the natural path for about 3 years after relaxing for over 20 years. At first having no access to sites like this I had NO IDEA at all what to do woth my hair so kept in under full head weaves. Gradually I realised these were dmamging and started researching hair care and stumbled upon this site. In many ways it has been a revelation - knowing that our hair can be so beautiful, grow strong and long and MOST important can be managed quite easily. My problem is that mine seems to follow its own path. Its very uneven - the nape is only2 iinches, the edges are thin and fragile. I have followed tips and advice - deep conditioning regularly, minimal heat, protective styling yet I do not feel I have made any real progress. I tried wigging it for 8 months keeping the hair under cornrowed yet all that did was eat up my edges (though I bought this product called comfi-grip which is supposed to protect edges - its used for chemotherapy patients). I then cornrowed (with attachnments) for a couple of months, redoing every month but again I think it may be putting starin on my egdes so I cannot risk it as a longterm low maintainance option. I have tried leaving my hair out but despite mositurising, etc it is as hard as stone after a few hours, with knots, tangles and impossible to comb. I have been avoiding relaxers not because I have anything against them but I feel they may make things worse but I am so frustrated now I will try anything. It seem slike the relaxed journey did my hair no favours but eqaully the natural journey has not been smooth by a long shot. I do not know what to do anymore and have reached a stage where I almost feel this hair is NOT a blessing, I mean, why does it have to be so difficult to manage? I would sincerely appreciate any advise you ladies can offer. Thanks in advance.
God bless
Sprite.
PS - these are some of the products I have used over time -
henna (in my bid to keep it as natural as possible but it dries out my hair), oyin products (ordered at great expense from USA - I live in the UK), anita grant butters, miss key 10 in 1 cond, ORS mayo, elasta qp cond, amla oil, coconut oil, castor oil, CON (green) shampoo, aubrey organics HSR cond, BT, dr miracle oil for my egdes.