dreamgurl82
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My best friend isn't answering her phone.....so please chime in.
I am slightly frustrated and wanted to know whether its just me.
Background
My DH is out of the country at the moment and we are having to live apart temporarily It is really hard but I can't complain. We have got the hang of it (as much as one can).
Thing is, when he was around I used to ask him if I could go out with my friends without him. By ask him, I would do it out of courtesy if it meant that I would leave him at home alone i.e. Baby would you mind if I went to hang out with xyz tonight?
I work super long hours at the Plantation, so evenings (i.e. if I got home before 10pm and I was in the mood to talk) and weekends are really our only quality time so I felt it was only fair to get his input - just the same way he would ask me.
Now that he is out of the country I tell him I am going out and I go where I want to.
Today he suggested that I am being brand new by doing this, and since when do I feel comfortable to just get up and leave without asking him if it's okay. I explained to him that it was not me being different, and that he must have misconstrued my previous approach. I said to him, "I was not asking for your permission all those times, I was just being courteous, but if you are not in the country how does my going out affect you? I tell you where I am going, that should be enough".
By going out I mean going for drinks with co-workers on a Friday night or dinner with friends, not getting my hot pants and heels on and hitting the club till 6am.
After some back and forth (don't argue with a lawyer). He said its okay, but I know his ego is bruised, and he said something about being someone's wife etc. but I zoned out coz its too hot today
Do you agree with my view? Or do you think I am being being brand new?
Married ladies, how do you deal with this?
I am slightly frustrated and wanted to know whether its just me.
Background
My DH is out of the country at the moment and we are having to live apart temporarily It is really hard but I can't complain. We have got the hang of it (as much as one can).
Thing is, when he was around I used to ask him if I could go out with my friends without him. By ask him, I would do it out of courtesy if it meant that I would leave him at home alone i.e. Baby would you mind if I went to hang out with xyz tonight?
I work super long hours at the Plantation, so evenings (i.e. if I got home before 10pm and I was in the mood to talk) and weekends are really our only quality time so I felt it was only fair to get his input - just the same way he would ask me.
Now that he is out of the country I tell him I am going out and I go where I want to.
Today he suggested that I am being brand new by doing this, and since when do I feel comfortable to just get up and leave without asking him if it's okay. I explained to him that it was not me being different, and that he must have misconstrued my previous approach. I said to him, "I was not asking for your permission all those times, I was just being courteous, but if you are not in the country how does my going out affect you? I tell you where I am going, that should be enough".
By going out I mean going for drinks with co-workers on a Friday night or dinner with friends, not getting my hot pants and heels on and hitting the club till 6am.
After some back and forth (don't argue with a lawyer). He said its okay, but I know his ego is bruised, and he said something about being someone's wife etc. but I zoned out coz its too hot today
Do you agree with my view? Or do you think I am being being brand new?
Married ladies, how do you deal with this?