I have been using HAwaiian silky for the past year, it isnt lye, it's a lithium hydroxide relaxer. it is not harsh, it doesnt burn me and I am tender headed, but I also base my scalp really well. I mix Chi silk infusion and coconut oil and coat the length of my hair with a protein conditioner with vaseline on the ends and it takes about 15-18 mintues for full apllication. I wash it out and my hair has the perfect coil. Perfect. I don't want to ever switch from this relaxer. Oh and BTW it is really inexpensive, like $6 for a 16oz jar.
Hope your choice was satisfactory. Can't wait to see results.