I am going to relax my hair in a few weeks and after reading some of the threads on this board I cannot decide as to use lye or no lye. My stylists has been using Silk Elements lye and it burns the heck out of my scalp (I have a sensitive scalp) and it leaves my hair incredibly dry and after a few weeks my hair doesn't look as if I relaxed it. I never had this problem with optimum no lye but my understanding is that no lye is not good for the hair. So what does a girl do?