SweetCoca and Carmen Rose
This is the first time, everyone has said something sensible about long hair and genes. There seems to be a school of thought, particularly among some black people that if you didn't have long hair when you were small, you probably can't grow your hair longer and taking vitamins/supplements is a waste of time, and you should accept you can't grow it, there are those who say that they would take any thing, if their hair is short, however if you go to other hair boards where which is for mostly white women, the boards longhairlovers and others now, if you have a 2 year growth cycle, they try to tell you what things to take so that you can get your maximum growth rate within the two years. Doing more massages etc and they really encourage each other. This board and a few other really encourage each other, where some are very negative. We will never know until we try and we have all our life to try and previously I have wanted to grow my hair longer, but I didn't have anyone to motivate me and I gave up and went back to bad habits like not washing regularly, not taking vitamins. Not deep conditoning. Not moisturising properly, perming, underperming, overperming, perming and colouring, within two weeks or each other, but instead of waiting at least a month doing deep conditioning treatments, I coloured regularly. I just got lazy and my hair started to break and I kept it short. It is very difficult to achieve your goals, if you don't have people to encourage you. You just don't bother anymore. Jenny Bahney the moderator of Longhairlovers, said she always wanted to grow her hair long for years, she was never able to achieve it. It was always shoulder length, so when she started her website, in May 1999, she had shoulder length hair, December 2002, her current length is tailbone, her goal is thighlength. She's takes her supplements and she goes to hairdressers, specialising in long hair and the amount of products she used, plus she is a trained trichologist and she studied her hair. I feel that black people are under the delusion that white people have no problem growing long lengths, well I saw a lot of white women, with shoulder length hair and if you see the state of the hair, one had very fine hair and it was barely touching her shoulders, the rest of them had hair which was permed, highlighted, bleached within an inch of their life. Even if some of them have long hair, there is not gloss. You can see their hair struggled to get to that length and it looks awful, some many with damaged ends. One white women was with her mixed race daughter (black father), if you see the state of their hair, it made you what to cry. But a lot of people don't know any better and living in UK, and United States are not long hair countries. We will have to deal with our hormones changing, which they do, every month, our stress levels, our pregnancies, if any of us have children etc, our changes of life and we will learn how to deal with them, improving our diet always helps. While we are focussing on our hair, we are improving on our health in the long run and I am sure that we will achieve our goals with the universe's help.
