Long distance FWB?

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butter_pecan

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Have any of you done it or know someone who did? How did it work out? Curious for my own personal reasons lol... But seriously if you can share your stories/advice. Even down to travel arrangements. Thanks!
 
Aren't FWB supposed to be conveniently close by when you need them? :look:

I don't know, but go for it if he pays for comfortable trips back and forth on days that suit your schedule.
 
FlowerHair said:
Aren't FWB supposed to be conveniently close by when you need them? :look:

I don't know, but go for it if he pays for comfortable trips back and forth on days that suit your schedule.
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Not if the quality in your area is low lol. And you travel often...
 
Long distance FWB sounds like work. FWB are supposed to be the least amount of work possible.

I don't feel you need quality when dealing with a FWB. Just someone who won't stalk you and knows how to go home after a session. It is just an appendage, nothing more. Once you start thinking, coordinating, syncing schedules, that is a bit much in my book.
 
I did it for a couple of years. I only pulled it off because I was in school and working and didn't have time to date. We'd see each other every two weeks. One week he'd visit me and the next time I'd visit him.

By the way, when I finished school it went downhill because then I had time for a relationship and of course he was comfy with the way it was.
 
Op, the person you should be talking to is your fwb.

The guy is supposed to be sooo easy going that you can just say "hey, when and where?".

If you know you're gonna be in his hood in advance just shoot him a message hours before. Much more planning than that is too much work for me...

This is from experience.
 
That's too much work OP even if you do travel often.

If the FWB is more than 1 hour away..I can't do it.
 
I understand everyone's advice, but the guys here are seriously ick, or already attached (I still travel back and forth to DC a lot, but Detroit sucks...trust me, I tried). I guess I'm different in that I have high standards, even for just a FWB.

But you all have good advice and I will heed some of it. He and I both have enough vacation (4+ weeks) and disposable income where it could work, and I am moving back to DC in upcoming months. But yeah, I'm likely over thinking this LOL.
 
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Not all arrangements are extra simple. it sounds like you guys are actually friends. In this case do whatever feels right. My fwb asked me to come over once and we barely did anything...that's because we enjoy each other's company as well. But be careful, once you are actually putting time and money towards it, its a bit more than just an fwb thing...so be mindful of either of you catching feelings.
 
keyawarren said:
Not all arrangements are extra simple. it sounds like you guys are actually friends. In this case do whatever feels right. My fwb asked me to come over once and we barely did anything...that's because we enjoy each other's company as well. But be careful, once you are actually putting time and money towards it, its a bit more than just an fwb thing...so be mindful of either of you catching feelings.
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This is great advice, thanks! Yeah we are...catching feelings is a concern though...I may be writing a different thread in the future if I don't tread lightly.
 
I am in that situation now. Sort of...he is a whopping 9 hours away. We talk often and I know I can look him up whenever I am out that way. If his job sends him here with me, then we see each other.

But we actually enjoy each other's time w/o that...he's cool, but I definitely do not want to be in a relationship with him.
 
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