Life Stalled

[LifeafterLHCF]

I have been back and forth in posting this as this section of the board at times can be not so compassionate when it comes to the following matters. I feel for some reason I need to post this. It may be removed later.

In life we as Christians are suppose to be different and should be identified by the fruits of our labor. A tree is know by the fruits or lack there of it produces. If you ever have pursued weight loss at times things are running fluidly. However just like in weight loss things are stalling. A stall shows no movement,as though everything has come to a halt. Your doing all that you have done in the past to get results but nothing you do either increase or decrease helps.

I will use my current life as a depiction. One is doing all that one can in order to create a lasting legacy. Praying,mentally and physically detoxing,studying the Word daily,journaling, researching and waiting.However nothing seems to be going anywhere near fast. One is constantly researching on ways to better one's self and making moves. In the same breathe one is never attempting to go outside of the will of God as that will stifle the process.

What does one do when they are stalled in life? Has anyone here ever dealt with anything along these lines and if so how did you break the stall.

 

[kila82]

Hey girl! I don't kno if I'm really the person to be responding to this lol but everyone goes thru different "seasons" in life. This season may be a sowing season or a winter season for you. I don't kno how to speed it up or make it pass any faster unfortunately. All I can guarantee is that this season will pass eventually and your reaping season will begin

 

[HairNinja]

Going through something similar. Long-suffering is a fruit of the spirit. Patience and waiting on the Lord like Job will help. I prayed about this today. I firmly believe the stall is designed by the enemy to tire one out and encourage one to loose faith, slow down, doubt God, or take offense. ( I see you know this will stiffle your process) Endurance and constancy is key.

Never stop taking care of your spirit and keep waiting. I am waiting for a breakthrough myself. All I keep running into is more and more heartache and dissapointment.

I slowed down spiritually and slowly began to doubt. Never doubt that he is blessing your efforts. Never stop pleasing the Lord and WAIT, WAIT, WAIT. Hope this helps.

 

[HairNinja]

Hey girl! I don't kno if I'm really the person to be responding to this lol but everyone goes thru different "seasons" in life. This season may be a sowing season or a winter season for you. I don't kno how to speed it up or make it pass any faster unfortunately. All I can guarantee is that this season will pass eventually and your reaping season will begin

This reminded me of an encouraging scripture about reaping blessings in due season.

Galations 6:9
“So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up.“

 

[Ceelo]

Hey girl..this reminded me so much of myself! Im goin thru it now..but God has put it on my heart that I am at the EDGE.And thats the EDGE of a BREAKTHROUGH! It may be painful right now feeling as though nothing is moving, but God is the king of "behind the scenes". Hes growing you to trust in HimREGARDLESS! Girl you got this and Im glad you postes bc im in that place right now. Im praying for ur breakthrough in Jesus name!

 

[Belle Du Jour]

The enemy knows that most people give up right before they will get their blessing and he usually steps it up in the last half-hour, so to speak. When things take a turn for the worse, that's the time to hold even faster to God and be determined. "I'm not letting go until You bless me Lord."

I also want to echo what someone else said. No season can possibly last forever or else that would mean death. Things are happening behind the scenes in the spiritual realm that we can't see. God is very much involved. Stay encouraged.

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

Thank you ladies. I not so much need encouraging as I want to see how do others deal. Some pray and that's all but I know some do practical things to move make the most of a stall. Some things have to change I believe in order for a stall to break.

 

[HWAY]

When I felt as if my life was in a rut and realized I was deeply unhappy, I had to deal with some decisions I'd made while trying to please others.
First, I had to be honest about why I was unhappy and ask myself what I wanted my life to be at that age and ten years in the future. After I set my goals, I established an action plan with objectives I would reach while meeting my goals. That was 1993 and 1994. I lost friends, changed religions, fell in love with Jesus, returned to school,changed careers, married,etc. I met 90% of my goals and am happier than I was then.

God may be calling you to make serious lifestyle changes. Are you wrestling with him? Only you know the answer. If you are are resisting the leading of the holy spirit, self examination is key. It was only after I submitted to the holy spirit and stopped trying to please others that I gained peace. Change is a very painful process but the results are wonderful.

 

[LoveisYou]

Hey lady,

I don't really have any advice but I highly recommend the book The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyers, I think it will help to answer a lot of the life questions you are struggling with.

 

[sidney]

Hey lady,

I don't really have any advice but I highly recommend the book The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyers, I think it will help to answer a lot of the life questions you are struggling with.

@LoveisYou, what is the book about?

Nevermind, title! lol!

 

[LoveisYou]

@LoveisYou, what is the book about?

Nevermind, title! lol!

Hey Sidney,

The book covers a lot of topics including: overcoming self-doubt, developing godly confidence, overcoming fear, and living boldly.
It highlights how we can increase our self-esteem (when it comes to making decisions, trusting God, trusting ourselves, avoiding making comparisons, pleasing God instead of ppl and having Godly confidence).

 

[sidney]

Hey Sidney,

The book covers a lot of topics including: overcoming self-doubt, developing godly confidence, overcoming fear, and living boldly.
It highlights how we can increase our self-esteem (when it comes to making decisions, trusting God, trusting ourselves, avoiding making comparisons, pleasing God instead of ppl and having Godly confidence).

That sounds like a really good book, thanks for the rec! LoveisYou

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

HWAY you just hit me like a ton of bricks. I never thought to be a people pleaser but I think on things I desire and it would indirectly is to please people. Ie lose weight so men folks of a certain caliber can like me,grow wl hair so chicks would like me,make a certain income or live a certain way so others would want to be near me..I'm glad I posted this seriously..kicking myself for not doing it sooner.

 

[HWAY]

GoddessMaker, what needs to be changed?

GoddessMaker, if you can change your world, what would it look like?

Name 2 or 3 things you can change to help you achieve your goal.

 

[loulou7]

I have been back and forth in posting this as this section of the board at times can be not so compassionate when it comes to the following matters. I feel for some reason I need to post this. It may be removed later.

In life we as Christians are suppose to be different and should be identified by the fruits of our labor. A tree is know by the fruits or lack there of it produces. If you ever have pursued weight loss at times things are running fluidly. However just like in weight loss things are stalling. A stall shows no movement,as though everything has come to a halt. Your doing all that you have done in the past to get results but nothing you do either increase or decrease helps.

I will use my current life as a depiction. One is doing all that one can in order to create a lasting legacy. Praying,mentally and physically detoxing,studying the Word daily,journaling, researching and waiting.However nothing seems to be going anywhere near fast. One is constantly researching on ways to better one's self and making moves. In the same breathe one is never attempting to go outside of the will of God as that will stifle the process.

What does one do when they are stalled in life? Has anyone here ever dealt with anything along these lines and if so how did you break the stall.

GoddessMaker, this has happen to most people; it seems as though The Lord is late in moving you where you want to go. But as HairNinja stated, wait... Don't move ahead of Him.

It reminds me of the story of Sarah and Abraham. The Lord said that he was going to give them a son, but Sarah just couldn't wait; coupled with the fact that she was too old for childbirth. But with G-d all things are possible!

Anyway, she encouraged Abraham to become intimate with her Egypt servant, Hagar. Of course, this wasn't the will of The Lord and it caused great contention in their family, after Isaac was born.

Unfortunately, by Sarah not waiting on The Lord, the decision she made back then resulted in Ishmael (Hagar's son) and Isaac’s seed to continue to be at each others throat today in the Middle East.

So you keep doing what you've been doing - preparing yourself to reap the blessing that He has in store for you.

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

loulou7 this is a good story to bring up. Man you all are blowing my mind. I guess I'm open and receptive today because all these comments are really hitting me.

HWAY if I could change my world what would look like. I would be truly seen as a christian--not just by my name--,I would be walking in love and confidence from God. My life wouldn't be so sad or poor. I would have lasting relationships with people and I wouldn't be drained by people.

Right now I'm working on moving and getting where I can be at my church in person. I have the thought for the longest things had to be perfect to try. I grappled with God that I should be somewhere else. Well unless one is willing to try nothing will happen. So I'm moving to MD next year. I talked to a friend here a few weeks back and she said did you ask God. Is this just you or is it God. I know it's him I feel such a peace about it. Everything may not be perfect but nothing in life is. I know nothing will fall into my lap. Weight doesn't just go away it takes work. So this is no different.

 

[HWAY]

Focus on God. Strengthen your relationship with God. Forget about how others view you. By strengthening your relationship with God through bible study, meditatiing on his word while walking, driving etc, regular prayer, you will grow spiritually and emotionally. Please stop worrying about how others view you. Focus on your relationship with the Lord. He is the only one to focus on.

What brings you joy? Focus on that. The holy spirit is calling you out of a negative situation. Whatever brings disquiet to your spirit is the answer of how God is calling you.

 

[HairNinja]

GoddessMaker, this has happen to most people; it seems as though The Lord is late in moving you where you want to go. But as @HairNinja stated, wait... Don't move ahead of Him.

It reminds me of the story of Sarah and Abraham. The Lord said that he was going to give them a son, but Sarah just couldn't wait; coupled with the fact that she was too old for childbirth. But with G-d all things are possible!

Anyway, she encouraged Abraham to become intimate with her Egypt servant, Hagar. Of course, this wasn't the will of The Lord and it caused great contention in their family, after Isaac was born.

Unfortunately, by Sarah not waiting on The Lord, the decision she made back then resulted in Ishmael (Hagar's son) and Isaac’s seed to continue to be at each others throat today in the Middle East.

So you keep doing what you've been doing - preparing yourself to reap the blessing that He has in store for you.

I love this example Sarah was trying to hurry things along. Faith and patience is the key nothing is impossible with God. Abraham had to check her when she laughed about really having pleasure in her old age. All really good things are worth waiting for God's promises are many and they will all come true in his due time.

 

[HairNinja]

@HWAY you just hit me like a ton of bricks. I never thought to be a people pleaser but I think on things I desire and it would indirectly is to please people. Ie lose weight so men folks of a certain caliber can like me,grow wl hair so chicks would like me,make a certain income or live a certain way so others would want to be near me..I'm glad I posted this seriously..kicking myself for not doing it sooner.

I am a people pleaser as well thinking loosing weight and growing hair will make me spectacular. I really want people to like me more but now part of my breakthrough is realizing that God loves me as is. And as long as I do everything for him he will bless me in due time.

Ephesians 6:6-8
"not by way of eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. With good will render service, as to the Lord, and not to men, knowing that whatever good thing each one does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether slave or free."

 

[auparavant]

Everybody says folks are either attracted to or repelled by a person's appearance. But it's not the complete truth. People generally sense the spirit of a person but we fool ourselves to believe the outside is the first impression. I say it's spiritually felt first.
There may be correlations between the outside and what turmoil is within. Sometimes, people overlook the imperfect outside and see a true gem inside of a person.

I say this to drive the point that one should not live to please others. Only live to please G-d and fulfill your own desires. No matter how much you squirm to make yourself into the supposed perfect image of what society or another says, that is not beneficial to your human dignity. Love of self occurs no matter the circumstance, whether in perfection or imperfection, riches or poverty, companionship or solitude. Love of self begins with love of G-d. Stop trying to please others. Stop comparing yourself to others because you are perfectly UNIQUE, just as your are.

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I am a people pleaser as well thinking loosing weight and growing hair will make me spectacular. I really want people to like me more but now part of my breakthrough is realizing that God loves me as is. And as long as I do everything for him he will bless me in due time.

Ephesians 6:6-8
"not by way of eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. With good will render service, as to the Lord, and not to men, knowing that whatever good thing each one does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether slave or free."

OT, but what lacefront are you wearing in your avatar. Looks very natural. Excuse me for hijacking. . .

 

[loulou7]

I say this to drive the point that one should not live to please others. Only live to please G-d and fulfill your own desires. No matter how much you squirm to make yourself into the supposed perfect image of what society or another says, that is not beneficial to your human dignity. Love of self occurs no matter the circumstance, whether in perfection or imperfection, riches or poverty, companionship or solitude. Love of self begins with love of G-d. Stop trying to please others. Stop comparing yourself to others because you are perfectly UNIQUE, just as your are.


Beautifully stated @auparavant, and so true...

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

Thank you ladies. Sometimes I don't want to see or read certain things but it's needed. I look at being on point in order to have higher attractivability in order to help more people. You know if you don't have that look or energy you aren't able to reach folks. I'm going to do what I can and do it all for his glory.

 

[LoveisYou]

Everybody says folks are either attracted to or repelled by a person's appearance. But it's not the complete truth. People generally sense the spirit of a person but we fool ourselves to believe the outside is the first impression. I say it's spiritually felt first.
There may be correlations between the outside and what turmoil is within. Sometimes, people overlook the imperfect outside and see a true gem inside of a person.

I say this to drive the point that one should not live to please others. Only live to please G-d and fulfill your own desires. No matter how much you squirm to make yourself into the supposed perfect image of what society or another says, that is not beneficial to your human dignity. Love of self occurs no matter the circumstance, whether in perfection or imperfection, riches or poverty, companionship or solitude. Love of self begins with love of G-d. Stop trying to please others. Stop comparing yourself to others because you are perfectly UNIQUE, just as your are.

Bolded for emphasis, because it couldn't be more true!