Amour
Well-Known Member
Alot of people say that alot of black women especially independet women, effeminate their men by being too independent and taking control in the relationship.
Do you agree?
I have controlling issues, and my perception of men is a little messed up. I think it is because I was brought up by a single mother, because my DEADBEAT father left and didn't look back. I have seen my Mom have alot of bad relationships which has made me feel quite resentful to men, black men in particular. Growing up, my Mother was the man and woman of the house, she took control of EVERYTHING and didn't have help from anyone not even family, as a result I have institutionalised her way of being.
I have been secretly trying to work out my controlling ways and my SO as just called me out on it. Also how do you work out the balance?
So I wanted to know how do you let your man be the man? When and how do you take the step back?
Do you agree?
I have controlling issues, and my perception of men is a little messed up. I think it is because I was brought up by a single mother, because my DEADBEAT father left and didn't look back. I have seen my Mom have alot of bad relationships which has made me feel quite resentful to men, black men in particular. Growing up, my Mother was the man and woman of the house, she took control of EVERYTHING and didn't have help from anyone not even family, as a result I have institutionalised her way of being.
I have been secretly trying to work out my controlling ways and my SO as just called me out on it. Also how do you work out the balance?
So I wanted to know how do you let your man be the man? When and how do you take the step back?
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