I can't get into it here (at work) but I need advice. I have a platonic friend of since the age of 14. When I say platonic I mean we went on dates as kids but nothing ever happened, thank God. He is a great guy but not the guy for me. Anyway, our friendship has been through a lot and although we live on separate coasts (and at one point internationally) we always found a way to keep in touch (e.g. email, texting, phone calls, etc.). What makes matters a little more complicated is that our families speak all the time, he has met my mom, etc. At one point in our friendship things could have turned romantic but that ship has sailed (for me).
So the problem I have is that I've been in my relationship with SO for a while and this friend was known for causing problems. He would continue to call, text whenever he felt like it. He would be ON A DATE and call me. Huh? erplexed He compares everyone to me-- even the current gf he will say 'well she's ok. but there can be only one you.'
At first, this was fine- he is my friend, we will always be cool. But then it was like it didn't matter that I was in a relationship or that he was in a relationship, he felt the need to call me all the time (2 am, 8 am at work, whenever he wanted to talk). I have told him over and over again that me + him = nada. It's like he does not respect that.
So what I did was ignore his calls to my job, block his e-mail address, block his cell phone number and delete my myspace page. I want to keep the interaction as simple as possible because it was going beyond friendship for him-- he was talking about why couldn't we try to be together... when am I going to be in LA for business (I go to CA once a month), can we meet up... come on now. If he couldn't reach me, he would call my mom's house
Any advice? I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing and limit contact.
So the problem I have is that I've been in my relationship with SO for a while and this friend was known for causing problems. He would continue to call, text whenever he felt like it. He would be ON A DATE and call me. Huh? erplexed He compares everyone to me-- even the current gf he will say 'well she's ok. but there can be only one you.'
At first, this was fine- he is my friend, we will always be cool. But then it was like it didn't matter that I was in a relationship or that he was in a relationship, he felt the need to call me all the time (2 am, 8 am at work, whenever he wanted to talk). I have told him over and over again that me + him = nada. It's like he does not respect that.
So what I did was ignore his calls to my job, block his e-mail address, block his cell phone number and delete my myspace page. I want to keep the interaction as simple as possible because it was going beyond friendship for him-- he was talking about why couldn't we try to be together... when am I going to be in LA for business (I go to CA once a month), can we meet up... come on now. If he couldn't reach me, he would call my mom's house
Any advice? I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing and limit contact.