Kissing the new beau + his hands + your weave

His hands is on your sew-in during a passionate kiss...what do you do?

  • Move his hands but keep kissing

    Votes: 12 40.0%

  • Move his hands and stop kissing

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Keep kissing him and don't worry about his hands

    Votes: 13 43.3%

  • Start explaining that you have a weave

    Votes: 1 3.3%

  • Get angry and tell him never to touch your hair

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Other-please explain

    Votes: 4 13.3%
  • Total voters
    30
  • Poll closed .
kweenameena

kweenameena

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So you're kissing the new beau but you haven't had "the weave talk" just yet. Then all of a sudden his hand glides up your back and rests on the back of your head/sew-in as you all passionately kiss.

What do you do?
 
What happens if someone touches your sew in? Does it mess the weave up or does it just reveal to the person that it's a weave?
 
Weezy Jefferson said:
What happens if someone touches your sew in? Does it mess the weave up or does it just reveal to the person that it's a weave?
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I was discussing this with a coworker and she hadn't actually told the dude that she was wearing a weave. So yeah....
I guess she was moreso concerned about the fact that he'd feel her cornrows.
 
:lachen:

i don't wear weaves, but depending on my comfort level with him i'd move his hands or tell him it's not real.
 
I don't wear weaves much but I'd probably let him know before it even got to a physical level. If I didn't have the chance to let him know before hand, I'd move his hands and play it off like I was just teasing him and never get into that situation until my weave is out lololol! That's of course if you're trying to front like it's your hair (which I have done years ago before LHCF).
 
I let him know the first time we made out to stop touching my weave! He still forgets and doesn't seem to care most times, always up in my damn head. He's kinda aware that it annoys me, so tries not to.

LF feels ok, but my favourite bss wig I really dont like him touching because you can feel everything, but he still does. -_-
 
Im in a weave and kissed my latest crush when I saw him the last time (met him on this holiday) .. he reached out for my hair and I just kept moving it :lachen:

When I saw him a few days later he was like "Why couldnt I touch your hair?" I dont mind when he does it now, I told him it was a weave and then he was like "ok" :lol:
 
Everybody knows when I have a weave. That would be on him. Lol
However, i.would be cautious with not telling your man about your weave. My friend's boo's finger got caught up in her weave. :nono
 
Do you think black men touch white women's hair like they do ours on the "first" kiss or when they first meet us? I have felt disrespected by so many black men who touch my weave to see if its my real hair. I was in Puerto Rico on a group trip and both of the black men in my group started randomly playing in my hair once (one just started fluffling it...like WTF? the other just placed his big a$$ hand in the top of my hair while i was sitting down, LIKE WTF?!). So both of them discovered it was fake and made a comment about it. I wanted to slap them. I'm still mad about it. Who gave them permission to touch my flucking hair? I don't see them doing it to the white women!
 
:lol: haven't worn a weave, so I'm not sure. Even though, I always hesitate when a guy touches my hair... Perhaps because I start to wonder why he's doing it.
I have to say, objectively, I like when a guy strokes my hair, and I fondly remember the days when it was easier to do so (when I had relaxed hair). I remember being sad in my last relationship that my ex didn't touch my hair as much when I went natural. Not that he didn't like it. Actually, he was such a major supporter that he did my big chop for me:lol:
Then, I realized it had to do with the fact that it takes more effort to reach the scalp when you're wearing an afro:lol: and they don't want to mess up whatever style you've got going on. Another, more personal reason, is that my ex didn't like that I used to go out with wet hair so much.
I'm way off topic, but I just feel like talking about this:lol:

Since being natural and dating other people, I have had several guys touch my hair without asking. Sometimes on the first date, even. Not while kissing, either. One non-black guy dug his hand in there and rubbed, and then talked about how he loves it. I think that was probably the most overt feedback I'd gotten on it on a date.
Another non-black put his hands in it and fluffed it upward, leaving me thinking: he must not know black hair boundaries.
Black men have mostly patted it, maybe out of concern that I might not want anything further? Some have also asked to sniff it. They'll get a light whiff of my conditioner and ask permission to smell it. I think that's so cute:lol:

/off topic.
 
Pause. :look: tell him he can touch, but dont tangle my weave. resume the position. :look:

I no longer wear weave but when I did I had to constantly remind dh 'none of that finger coiling mess!'
 
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I don't wear a weave, but if a dude is all up in my hair, we are way past the intial stages so it doesn't matter.

Do men actually go all up in your hair in the beginning stages? For real? I am so glad I have not run into those types.
 
If we're at a point where I'm cool with us "kissing passionately", we're at a point where I'm cool with you touching my weave. I vote for "Keep kissing him and don't worry about his hands" and detangle/get your hair together later.
 
Hell, when I wore weaves, I never hid it. In fact, I would proudly announce my weave to anyone who complimented--even coworkers. lol. I'd let them look and riffle through it too--so why not someone I am makin out with? :)
 
i don't wear weaves, but i will wear a wig once in awhile. my SO knows when i have it on because it is shorter than my actual hair. i take it off before anything goes down! :lol:
 
ellebelle88 said:
Do you think black men touch white women's hair like they do ours on the "first" kiss or when they first meet us? I have felt disrespected by so many black men who touch my weave to see if its my real hair. I was in Puerto Rico on a group trip and both of the black men in my group started randomly playing in my hair once (one just started fluffling it...like WTF? the other just placed his big a$$ hand in the top of my hair while i was sitting down, LIKE WTF?!). So both of them discovered it was fake and made a comment about it. I wanted to slap them. I'm still mad about it. Who gave them permission to touch my flucking hair? I don't see them doing it to the white women!
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I've had a similar situation happen too, where guys I were dating touched my hair to see if it was real. I'm willing to bet they don't do that to other races of women.

This is off-topic, but I've had guys poke/grab my stomach! When I aked why, they wanted to see if I had on a spanx or something that could possibly be hiding a big tummy!

Yeah they never got a call back. :nono:

But to answer the question at hand, when I wore weave, I always let them know, and usually they didn't touch my hair at all.
 
I just let him touch it My hair is not off limits even if I do have a weave installed. I'm comfortable enough to allow him to touch it and I answer any questions honestly if he has any. Most men don't question though because they are familiar with weaves. I have dated men though who seem afraid to touch my hair I guess someone they dated before didn't allow them to touch their hair.
 
It happened once while I was wearing a ponytail and he pulled it off by mistake. Thank God I'm not bald. :lol:
 
Hahahahaa. It's happened to me recently. I didn't say anything. I thought about having a snappy comment like, "yeah dude, it's a weave." But I didn't and he didn't care since he asked me out again, so, whatever!
 
ellebelle88 said:
Do you think black men touch white women's hair like they do ours on the "first" kiss or when they first meet us? I have felt disrespected by so many black men who touch my weave to see if its my real hair. I was in Puerto Rico on a group trip and both of the black men in my group started randomly playing in my hair once (one just started fluffling it...like WTF? the other just placed his big a$$ hand in the top of my hair while i was sitting down, LIKE WTF?!). So both of them discovered it was fake and made a comment about it. I wanted to slap them. I'm still mad about it. Who gave them permission to touch my flucking hair? I don't see them doing it to the white women!
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That's messed up:nono:
 
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