Judge People By Their Hair?

[MizzBrown]

Got this thought in another thread..How many of you ladies purposely or subconsciously judge other women by their hair? I will admit that I didn't pay other people much attention until i joined this site.

If the cashier at the gas station has a terrible weave job or the receptionist at your office has an unbearably bad dye job, your SO's mother has no edges to speak of and doesn't look like she's trying to get some anytime soon.... do you change or form a perception about the person?

How do you ladies judge people by their hair and what do you think others would say about yours? Hmmm...

 

[localhost]

I don't judge others by their hair. Case in point, when I was at the salon, another lady came in and she had virtually no edges. Just GONE! She refused to give up her weaves. I took note of it and didn't comment. Some people just care for their hair the best they know how, and that's why it is the way it is.

As far as what others think...I can careless what they have to say about my hair! Everybody is entitled to an opinion but I don't need to explain ish to them!

 

[Nicole1976]

I think MizzBrown has a point.

I think women have come a long way especially us. I am definitely VERY far from being a racist...But it really does not do us any kind of Justice when you see some women ABUSING weave...that burns me up , it's tacky

 

[dlewis]

I seem to notice everything about hair health these days. And will think for example: if I see a women with broken hair I would think, she needs a cut and maybe a protein treatment. If I see a woman with thin hair, I might think, she should try henna. If I see a woman with long hair and the last 6 inches is split ends, I would think, what's the point in hair long nasty hair. If I see a woman with very healthy hair, I wonder what she's doing to keep her hair heathly.

 

[silverlotus]

No, cuz it's not like hair knowledge is readily available. I know before hair boards, I did lots of stuff that I had no clue was damaging. Most people just don't know about proper hair care. When I see others with bad hair, I kinda just wish I could help them out some... give them a good d/c and protein treatment or something.

ETA: Most people probably think I have no hair on my head cuz it's in a bun all the time. When it's down, I have no clue what people are thinking, nor do I care...

 

[Nicole1976]

Yes, I agree with you SilverLotus also...

But what about women who clearly dont care...I have seen some women have weave literaly hanging out of their hair


By the way, I am runing over to your fotki, I heard it was nice!

 

[HoneyDew]

I don't judge people by their hair. I do want to hand them an LHCF card out of love though.

With all the issues we got in this lifetime - I am not the one to be judging someone simply because of hair.

 

[MrsHouston]

I do notice and stare at women's hair more now that I'm a member of this site and "into" healthy hair, but judging someone, NO way. If anything, when I see someone w/beautiful healthy hair I want to know what they're doing or if someone has unhealthy hair I feel obligated to help them.

 

[senimoni]

Judge as in what exactly?

Everyone makes judgements in there head whether they admit to them or not...its called an impression so I'm not sure I follow. I may think the obvious..if someone has jacked up hair, I think, wow thats jacked up but I don't even know how I would judge her based on that...you mean like not talking to her or something.

 

[lisatamika]

I don't really judge people by their hair, per se, but sometimes I look at somebody I've known for a while and notice that their hair is in the same jack-up state and I just wonder, "Don't you care?!?!!?"

Boggles my mind

 

[tapioca_pudding]

Someone rated this thread one star just cuz girlfriend asked a question?? Lawd Jesus.....

I don't judge off the hair. Same for those w/ nice hair. I don't make judgment calls on their personality.

Now say I get into a discussion with someone who has a hair issue and theyre giving me their reggie. I point out that they might want to start stretching relaxers past 6 weeks or not using heat every day. Now if they start saying how they can't go past 6 weeks cuz relaxers make their hair grow and they gotta use heat every day cuz it makes their hair lay down, I'll get frustrated, I cant lie. Not at them necessarily, just at the fact that this is what we have been taught all these years. But I still won't judge them, just offer suggestions if requested.

 

[LoveLiLi]

I might - but then again, I'm judgy, lol. I went to the pharmacy the other day and the cashier looked like she put the whole tub of grease in her head, she had some strange ponytail in her head and it looked like it was about to fall off, broken hairs were sticking out and she had the front gelled down to her forehead - A MESS!!!

Now, she may be a sweetheart, but I couldn't picture myself having a serious conversation with her or hanging out with her - the hair is just too distracting.

I do judge people harshly by the way they talk about hair. If someone is always referring to 'good' vs 'nappy' I find them annoying. I had a co-worker who would act a fool every time I wore my hair out. She had short hair and she didn't really know how to take care of it - so she would "beg" me for a few inches of mine in front of other coworkers. I didn't like the fact that she was acting like seeing a black girl with long hair was like seeing a unicorn - especially since one of my white coworkes insisted on asking me if my hair was real over and over again.

 

[Dayjoy]

I don't judge women by their hair simply because lately I only look for the hair I think is well cared for. Maybe that is judging--choosing not to see someone because I don't think their hair is up to par. Really, I'm only noticing beautiful hair now because that's what I'm interested in.

 

[ChocalateDiva]

IMO judge may be a harsh word. I do look at hair more now that I am interested in healthy hair. I mostly just look at hair and try to determine what she needs- protien, moisture, castor oil on the end, a trim,etc. And if the hair is healthy and doesnt seem to need anything, I just stare and wonder what their regimen is.

 

[shynessqueen]

I might - but then again, I'm judgy, lol. I went to the pharmacy the other day and the cashier looked like she put the whole tub of grease in her head, she had some strange ponytail in her head and it looked like it was about to fall off, broken hairs were sticking out and she had the front gelled down to her forehead - A MESS!!!

Now, she may be a sweetheart, but I couldn't picture myself having a serious conversation with her or hanging out with her - the hair is just too distracting.

I do judge people harshly by the way they talk about hair. If someone is always referring to 'good' vs 'nappy' I find them annoying. I had a co-worker who would act a fool every time I wore my hair out. She had short hair and she didn't really know how to take care of it - so she would "beg" me for a few inches of mine in front of other coworkers. I didn't like the fact that she was acting like seeing a black girl with long hair was like seeing a unicorn - especially since one of my white coworkes insisted on asking me if my hair was real over and over again.

The bold made me lol.

I notice that more younger black girls are starting to take better care of their hair. A lot more have SL hair and that is starting not to seem long anymore because ever other black girl/woman have SL hair. So I start thinking is this the new trend. IF it is I hope it never goes out of style.

 

[cutiebe2]

I don't really judge people by their hair, per se, but sometimes I look at somebody I've known for a while and notice that their hair is in the same jack-up state and I just wonder, "Don't you care?!?!!?"

Boggles my mind

ditto!!!!...I judge you in the way that I find it troubling that you are not concerned with the terrible state of your hair, you should recognize the problem and try to address it (although some people don't know how to address it)

 

[AvaSpeaks]

Judge as in what exactly?

Everyone makes judgements in there head whether they admit to them or not...its called an impression so I'm not sure I follow. I may think the obvious..if someone has jacked up hair, I think, wow thats jacked up but I don't even know how I would judge her based on that...you mean like not talking to her or something.

I think she means do you make a judgement or guess on how that person might be, based on the way she keeps her hair.

Like if she has super-bright colors in her head, do you think, "oh she ghetto",

 

[freshlikemoi]

I will admit. I judge alot of black females by their hair. Sawwy. I have been so much more hair concious since joining the hair boards. So it's not my fault. It's LHCF's..

 

[MariposaSexyGirl]

I judge how they treat me not their hair.

 

[chayil0427]

I try not to be judgemental, but because I love hair I'm always LOOKING at hair.

Sometimes I see women with such bad damage that I really want to reach out to them, but I can only imagine how some sista would go balistic on me if I walked up to her offering uninvited hair advice.

Also I tend to notice when little girls have really damaged hair. It makes me feel really sad .

I hope I'm not judgemental, but I think we've all passed someone and just thought, "My goodness, that looks a hot ghetto mess. Why doesn't she do something with that?"

I think its natural. But I try to stick to just be OBSERVANT and not judgemental -- realising that even though I've been blessed never to have had severely damaged hair, there was a time before the forum when I didn't know what to do with my hair ...so maybe that lady I pass who looks horrible is just a victim of bad hair advice or a crappy stylist.

Chayil

 

[Isis]

No, I don't judge people by their hair.

There are so many black women who do not know how to care for their hair, through no fault of their own. I was one of them before I discovered hair boards and LHCF.

When I see women with damaged hair, my heart goes out to them and I only wish them the best in their hair care journey. If they ask for help, I'm more than ready to share what I have learned.

I admire and appreciate beautiful, healthy hair when I see it.

 

[Barbara]

I don't judge people by their hair. I do want to hand them an LHCF card out of love though.

With all the issues we got in this lifetime - I am not the one to be judging someone simply because of hair.

Right. There are more important things in life than worrying or complaining about someone else's hair.

 

[JustKiya]

I don't judge people by their hair. I do want to hand them an LHCF card out of love though.

With all the issues we got in this lifetime - I am not the one to be judging someone simply because of hair.

Yeah, that, exactly.

I wish there was a non-offensive way to share the knowledge that is so freely offered here......

 

[glamazon386]

No.... I think a lot of people just don't know any better.

 

[onyxcabelo]

I judge how they treat me not their hair.

ITA. I don't judge people by their hair because quite honestly if someone were to see me in my "everyday" hair they probably wouldn't expect that it's the length or health that it is. I wear my hair up almost all the time. When I let it down, most people are shocked. But I would rather people look at me for the person I am, how I treat them, etc. than look at my head and assume anything about me. There are some things about a person's hair that can't be controlled, perhaps that woman with the thinning edges is losing her hair because she is physically sick or it's a hereditary issue, not because she doesn't know how to care for her hair. There are a lot of things going on with folks, and unless I've walked a mile in their shoes I worry more about judging myself rather than judging them.

 

[Isis]

ETA:
We're all at various stages of hair care and may or may not choose to do so for a wide variety of reasons. When I see a lady with beautiful, healthy hair, I admire it verbally to her with a compliment or silently to myself. A lady with hair that isn't cared for has her own reasons and it isn't my business what those reasons are. She can still be the most sweet, loving person in the world with assets other than her hair to admire.

 

[bravenewgirl87]

I seem to notice everything about hair health these days. And will think for example: if I see a women with broken hair I would think, she needs a cut and maybe a protein treatment. If I see a woman with thin hair, I might think, she should try henna. If I see a woman with long hair and the last 6 inches is split ends, I would think, what's the point in hair long nasty hair. If I see a woman with very healthy hair, I wonder what she's doing to keep her hair heathly.

Ditto.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

of course I make a judgement about folk based on their hair.

Now if hair is damaged but it looks like the person is at least trying to make it look presentable, then I assume they just don't know how to take care of it.

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[SmartyPants]

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Can we say GHETTO?!!!

The only people I really judge based on their hair are hair stylists. If their hair is jacked I make a mental note to never allow them anywhere near my hair.

There is this woman at my church who has extremely short thin see-through hair. Her hair is in much worse shape than my hair ever was when I was going through my worst hair crises. To make matters worse, she has at least two different color dyes on that thin see-through hair. She has three daughters (all adult). Two of them have their hair in matted looking braids with extensions. The other one has thin, see-through, multi-colored hair like her mom's. She has a cosmotology license and does other people's hair--NOT THE KID!

My mom told me I was wrong because maybe her hair was just nappy and won't grow?! Even if I accepted that, what is her excuse for putting two different color dyes on her already distressed hair--NOT THE KID!

 

[amwcah]

I don't judge people based upon their hair, but others do that for me. Last year I wore wigs and this year I'm wearing braids, so people think I am bald headed.