Update ladies. Things are so much better right now. The family member died and there's no undoing that of course. However, she was a strong woman of God and always expressed the desire to be with her maker. So we weep that we miss her, but we do not miss her because we fear for her soul. She lived a very full life in all respects so its not those types of deaths where you feel short-changed or weep for what could've been.
The other things that were making me upset were resolved for the better. Of course there are still other struggles but nothing like what was going on when I first posted. Life is back to "normal" struggles. Thank you for your support and prayers.