Okay so I was being nosy and found out that my friend(lets call her Sara) fooled around with my ex.
I would say that Sara is not my best friend, but she and I are pretty close. Well when I found out I was angry for about 5 seconds The episode occured before him and I ever met. I have only lived here for a couple of years and him and Sara went to school together. They were not dating, so I guess it was just a causal sex type relationship between the two of them.
So I told one of my best friends(Kim) about the situation to see what she would say. Kim's reaction kinda caught me off guard. She was upset, stating that the Sara isn't really my friend. Simply because a true friend should have been honest enough to tell me about the incident.
I kinda took up for Sara saying that I could understand how ackward it would be to tell my new friend about a booty call that I had years ago with her ex boyfriend. I could see if she slept with my man while we were together, but that was not the case. She also did not know that him and I dating when she and I first met, which is probably why we became so close. Sara may have even been a little hestiatant about our friendship if she knew about our connection with the same man.
I can't change that past, so why dwell on it. What I do know is that Sara has been a good friend. Kim doesn't think so because she sees it as a sign that Sara is a bit manipulative and dishonest.
What do you think? Would you have confronted Sara about the past incident? Or is it better left alone?
BTW, Sara has indeed moved on. She got engaged a couple of weeks ago.
I would say that Sara is not my best friend, but she and I are pretty close. Well when I found out I was angry for about 5 seconds The episode occured before him and I ever met. I have only lived here for a couple of years and him and Sara went to school together. They were not dating, so I guess it was just a causal sex type relationship between the two of them.
So I told one of my best friends(Kim) about the situation to see what she would say. Kim's reaction kinda caught me off guard. She was upset, stating that the Sara isn't really my friend. Simply because a true friend should have been honest enough to tell me about the incident.
I kinda took up for Sara saying that I could understand how ackward it would be to tell my new friend about a booty call that I had years ago with her ex boyfriend. I could see if she slept with my man while we were together, but that was not the case. She also did not know that him and I dating when she and I first met, which is probably why we became so close. Sara may have even been a little hestiatant about our friendship if she knew about our connection with the same man.
I can't change that past, so why dwell on it. What I do know is that Sara has been a good friend. Kim doesn't think so because she sees it as a sign that Sara is a bit manipulative and dishonest.
What do you think? Would you have confronted Sara about the past incident? Or is it better left alone?
BTW, Sara has indeed moved on. She got engaged a couple of weeks ago.