ok ive had too many interventions with this girl so im turning to you ladies for advice..
my gf has been talking to this guy for some time (abt 4 mo.) its been a rocky relationship. they've broken up a couple times because she felt like he wasnt giving her what she needed emotionally, got back together when he seemed like he'd do better etc. the thing is she initiated the break ups but it seems as if her man didnt believe her/called her bluff. This was problematic bcuz shortly after ending things with him she hooked up with another guy to whom she kind of lost/or attempted to lose her virginity. so when she and the original boy got back together or started talking again he was still under the assumption that she was a virgin. they are currently "working things out" (trying to communicate better, form a better relationship) but he still does not know of her random hookup. they have had sex tho and he now believes that he was her first.
i asked her why she wont tell him but she said that a) she doesnt want to make it seem like a huge deal by bringing it up, especially since they werent together. and b) he has had really bad past relationships with females and she doesnt want to perpetuate his trust issues with females.
there relationship is confusing.. one day she likes him one day she doesnt..one day hes acting a fool, another day he isnt..to be honest i dont see it goin far but i understand why shed want to try.. either way i dont know what to tell her... she said she didnt feel guilty about it until he started being sweet/nice to her. so i dont know what that says about her feelings towards him.. is she a cheater? is the dude obligated to know what happened? what creates more damage; telling the guy or keeping that part of her life to herself? i have no idea what to tell her..
my gf has been talking to this guy for some time (abt 4 mo.) its been a rocky relationship. they've broken up a couple times because she felt like he wasnt giving her what she needed emotionally, got back together when he seemed like he'd do better etc. the thing is she initiated the break ups but it seems as if her man didnt believe her/called her bluff. This was problematic bcuz shortly after ending things with him she hooked up with another guy to whom she kind of lost/or attempted to lose her virginity. so when she and the original boy got back together or started talking again he was still under the assumption that she was a virgin. they are currently "working things out" (trying to communicate better, form a better relationship) but he still does not know of her random hookup. they have had sex tho and he now believes that he was her first.
i asked her why she wont tell him but she said that a) she doesnt want to make it seem like a huge deal by bringing it up, especially since they werent together. and b) he has had really bad past relationships with females and she doesnt want to perpetuate his trust issues with females.
there relationship is confusing.. one day she likes him one day she doesnt..one day hes acting a fool, another day he isnt..to be honest i dont see it goin far but i understand why shed want to try.. either way i dont know what to tell her... she said she didnt feel guilty about it until he started being sweet/nice to her. so i dont know what that says about her feelings towards him.. is she a cheater? is the dude obligated to know what happened? what creates more damage; telling the guy or keeping that part of her life to herself? i have no idea what to tell her..