Poutchi
New Member
Hey Ladies,
I hope I will find help here.
I have been married to who I thought is my best friend and I still find myself not being able to talk deeply about things beside with him but the relationship just failed... we were not seing life the same way. I am moslem and he is but let's just say that ( these are his own words) " God does not guide his life"... The day he told me that after an argument that we should be doing things according to what we have in common with is our religion ( since we are from different country) and that he answered me that was the day I felt like there is no issue... But I kept praying and asking God to show him the light and to move him away from the non essential things in this life.
But anyway, we have been apart for almost a year now and I am still depressed as hell ( sorry for the word). I am taking mood swings pills and have tried a psychiatric before. I also see a naturopath with who I sometimes talk about this but i just cannot seem to overcome the lost of my husband and my best friend.
Lately i have been thinking alot about moving out of this city. I just feel like I have to disappear from him, put a physical distance between us to keep myself from being emotionnal dependent on him.
A friend of mine does not think I should run away from this and should deal with it but I think I am ready for a change. I am ready to sell the house we bought together and that I bought from us after the divorce, ready to meet new friends ( which is not possible here, the city is soo small, everyone knows every one) and start doing things for fun ( I do not think i can here since i am always afraid i will run into him or his friends)...
I just want to have a insight of what you guys would do. Also if anyone can pray for me, please do so. I really need it. I am away from my family, came to canada from africa to study and now I have a very good job I thank God for. All my family is in Africa. I have a sister here but she is always trying to set me up with other men and just the thought of me being with someone else makes me want to puke... I don't know what to do...
I hope I will find help here.
I have been married to who I thought is my best friend and I still find myself not being able to talk deeply about things beside with him but the relationship just failed... we were not seing life the same way. I am moslem and he is but let's just say that ( these are his own words) " God does not guide his life"... The day he told me that after an argument that we should be doing things according to what we have in common with is our religion ( since we are from different country) and that he answered me that was the day I felt like there is no issue... But I kept praying and asking God to show him the light and to move him away from the non essential things in this life.
But anyway, we have been apart for almost a year now and I am still depressed as hell ( sorry for the word). I am taking mood swings pills and have tried a psychiatric before. I also see a naturopath with who I sometimes talk about this but i just cannot seem to overcome the lost of my husband and my best friend.
Lately i have been thinking alot about moving out of this city. I just feel like I have to disappear from him, put a physical distance between us to keep myself from being emotionnal dependent on him.
A friend of mine does not think I should run away from this and should deal with it but I think I am ready for a change. I am ready to sell the house we bought together and that I bought from us after the divorce, ready to meet new friends ( which is not possible here, the city is soo small, everyone knows every one) and start doing things for fun ( I do not think i can here since i am always afraid i will run into him or his friends)...
I just want to have a insight of what you guys would do. Also if anyone can pray for me, please do so. I really need it. I am away from my family, came to canada from africa to study and now I have a very good job I thank God for. All my family is in Africa. I have a sister here but she is always trying to set me up with other men and just the thought of me being with someone else makes me want to puke... I don't know what to do...