Is it weird that...

I'm not trying to be funny but you could get a PornStick and see if he has anything weird on his computer. I mean, other than asking him straight out or invading his privacy I'm not sure how to calm your suspicions. Seems a bit far-fetched to me but then again I don't know him. I'd say follow summer's advice and trust your gut.
 
on one had i think you're overreacting because a lot of guys want daughters and like kids. but on the other, if this is something you're feeling strongly about, maybe something is wrong.
 
i have seen what on his computer and it's "normal" porn...lol...and i know all his passwords to everything so i trust him....i mean if he was alone with one of his "little sisters" i would think it was fine i just..idk is it normal for a guy to want a daughter and just a daughter?
 
bananabunneh said:
... only felt this way twice when he mentioned what he wanted to name his future daughter and when he picked up this little girl at his church. She didnt want to be held because she was jealous that he brought a girl (me) to church and didnt want to talk to him so he wouldnt put her down until she told him she missed him. idk?? i would talk to him about it but i dont want to hurt his feelings but this feeling is so weird.....
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It's not weird that he wants a daughter, but something about the bolded doesn't sit quite right. Agree with the others you should trust your intuition.
 
he held her the last time when she didnt see me and she was fine.....

to the above: That's what im thinking .....
 
This reminds me of something. I knew a man who used to say how he loved little girls. He would always sweep them up in his arms and proclaim his preference. He had a son and 2 girls. He treated the boy bad and he ended up with behavioural problems and is now basically a bum. The girls seemed okay at first but it turned out he molested them when they were kids. I know for a fact that the oldest girl was sexually active at 12.

I don't think anyone here can give you the answer you seek. Only you can decide whether to follow your gut feelings or not. That is all you have, your instincts. You may never know whether his preference for little girls is innocent or not.

Yes you may be projecting. However, research has shown that adult survivors of sexual abuse are more likely to be drawn to abusive partners, and hence, they are more likely to be the parent of a sexually abused child themselves. Therefore, as a survivor, it is important to ask the questions you are asking.
 
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he has an older sister and he has his little "brothers" at the church too...i have known him for a little over a year...

he never said that he preferred little girls over little boys that he just knew for sure he wanted a daughter...
 
be careful op... i think you have a sweet heart on your hands and you just dont know how to deal.... So many mean people in the world make it hard for us to appreciate love sometimes... You ALWAYS no matter what have to be protective of children... its the horrible trolls that make no waves that do the worst damage... His love is just like a mother who wants a pretty pretty princess girl or a ruff and tumble boy.
I personally want a ruff and tumble boy so bad, I imagine myself being a really active parent, running around, I wouldnt be mad if he got all dirty and stuff, i would just laugh with him... And when i see children little boys in particular just running round acting nuts, it makes me so happy. i am the adult that will play with a bunch of kids anyday. I have absolutely no inappropriate thoughts for them what so ever... in fact currently Im a bit asexual and dont know how imma make this child i want so bad hahahaha. but all that to say, that man may very well be a really really good father. Ask him stuff about how he envisions rearing his children and tell him about yours. Will make you guys good parents and relieve your worries some.
 
Strangefruittree said:
be careful op... i think you have a sweet heart on your hands and you just dont know how to deal.... So many mean people in the world make it hard for us to appreciate love sometimes... You ALWAYS no matter what have to be protective of children... its the horrible trolls that make no waves that do the worst damage... His love is just like a mother who wants a pretty pretty princess girl or a ruff and tumble boy.
I personally want a ruff and tumble boy so bad, I imagine myself being a really active parent, running around, I wouldnt be mad if he got all dirty and stuff, i would just laugh with him... And when i see children little boys in particular just running round acting nuts, it makes me so happy. i am the adult that will play with a bunch of kids anyday. I have absolutely no inappropriate thoughts for them what so ever... in fact currently Im a bit asexual and dont know how imma make this child i want so bad hahahaha. but all that to say, that man may very well be a really really good father. Ask him stuff about how he envisions rearing his children and tell him about yours. Will make you guys good parents and relieve your worries some.
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honestly i think that i'm jealous...i have 5 younger siblings that i havent seen in years and i worry about them all the time...we talk about child rearing all the time and even make scenarios like how he would have a shotgun waiting for the guy who takes her on her first date/marries her and how i think that we should put half on a car for them and have them pay on the other half for their car when they are 16 or so to teach them responsibilty...

and yes i am very protective of children...
 
I dont see the problem. Its not an issue when men talk about how they want sons, and have little juniors name and fav sport picked out. Why not a man who knows he wants a girl child?
 
bananabunneh said:
honestly i think that i'm jealous...i have 5 younger siblings that i havent seen in years and i worry about them all the time...we talk about child rearing all the time and even make scenarios like how he would have a shotgun waiting for the guy who takes her on her first date/marries her and how i think that we should put half on a car for them and have them pay on the other half for their car when they are 16 or so to teach them responsibilty...

and yes i am very protective of children...
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I used to feel that weird way when I was younger and had <----- key word - a man. Like some how, a man who showed big love for some one other than me somehow loved me less... If thats the feeling you are identifying please try to see the big love and share in that with him... He obviously feels for you in a big way for him to share this feeling. Find big love out side of him so that you can share and understand with him.
 
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