SimpleKomplexity
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*sings* Don't give it a try. You can keep yours and let him just go by
The below is what I wrote about the matter in my blog, but how do you really feel? How do you feel about friends with benefits relationships or F*ckBuddy relationships. What are the pros and the cons? Do you think it is best to stay out of these relationships?
The below is what I wrote about the matter in my blog, but how do you really feel? How do you feel about friends with benefits relationships or F*ckBuddy relationships. What are the pros and the cons? Do you think it is best to stay out of these relationships?
I'm still on this whole I won't sleep with someone who is not my boyfriend. I've been saying it for a year. I've been believing it for about 6 months. I've been doin it for like 3 weeks. Bad I know. It's just easy to stick to old habits instead of changing them.
I told someone that having a **** buddy is just like saying, "I couldn't get him to be in a relationship with me. He wouldn't put a ring on it, so I made him put his d*ck on it instead. That's enough for me."
It's really demoralizing in my honest opinion.
This is all I wanted. I wanted to be in a stable relationship in which I could share my dreams, goals, fears, insecurities, and body with and have them do the same and be proud of it publically.
Instead I got in a semi relationship with someone who I shared my dreams, goals, fears, insecurities, and body with, but they don't have to reciprocate, they can have relationships at the same time with other people, and they can leave and come at anytime. They can use you for all you have without giving anything in return.
I thought about my current situation a few months ago and thought, it seems like I got the short side of the stick. I settled. A lot of people are doing this now now, but does that make it right?
Most of the time I keep christianity out and instead logically think about it. Christianity often speaks to us that pre-marital sex is wrong for many reasons. I personally believe pre-relationship sex is wrong but not just from a Christian point of view...logically.
Logically this ish is dangerous. If you have a *** buddy, who is to say that your *** buddy doesn't have an *** buddy? Now a days a lot of females are letting men raw dog then which makes them susceptible to diseases the guy may not even know he HAS (such as HPV) so you are just playing russian roulette with YOUR health. And he's not in a relationship with you. Yall have no substance, so if you DO come up with something, who's to say he will stay. Then you just making it harder on yourself because then you will be searching for your next "Mr. Right Now" but who's gonna take you up on your offer with extra baggage included. (STDs, OOWL children, emotional distrust and etc) Not may.
Another point. One day your heart will be broken. Most of the time when sex is involved, women develop feelings and emotions and in their minds there "is" a relationship. They are entitled to that person and there is a bond between those person which is why they let that man do the things that he would be entitled to if he were in a relationship. Now when he gets bored or another woman comes along and pushes him to increase his standards cuz she won't lower hers, he will leave you...but technically he is not leaving you cuz you are not in a relationship anyway. Now your heart is broken because your relationship that was never a relationship is over.
Third, one of the purposes in life is to always be evolving and going through metamorphesis into a better person. But I kinda feel like if you stay in a relationship w/ a mere "**** buddy" you are basically telling yourself you don't love yourself, and you don't deserve/can't get better because you are allowing yourself to love someone to a certain extent where they don't love you back. It's unrequited
I still did it. I did it because in all honesty I don't think I can do better. I don't think I can get better. And yeah I might be a prissy chick with a bubbily personality, caring demeanor, positive attitude, good taste in fashion haha, but that ain't enough. On the inside how I really feel is if I do get in a good relationship, it will be out of pure luck and/or God.
And yes is it because of my disability. Not saying that it's a curse or it makes me less of a person... I just don't think many men look at disabilities as a condition not a person and will past that the same way I do.
And this sounds completely stupid and uncharacteristic of a person who has a high education level, but it is what it is. It's how I think and feel, and I accept that about myself. But that doesn't mean I'm not searching for ways to in the future not feel this way.
I simply need to raise my standards and how I think of my situation.
In the back of my mind of being a B.U.D.D.Y I felt guilty as heck because these thoughts just kept rumbling in my mind. And this is a hard habit to break in my opinion. When you're used to certain situations, you lean towards them. You become complacent. But really who are you playing? Don't play yourself. You deserve better. Not tommorrow. Not two years from now. Today.
) and that was the situation with what's her name and what's his name 
lol: I'm not good with names)
After it became clear that he didn't want a committed relationship, I thought I could put my feelings for him to the side and continue having a physical one. I was dead.a**.wrong.
yet she has considered him her boyfriend for months!
