Introverts and dating
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chocolat79
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Do you find dating difficult? I'm an introvert and I find "getting" dates very difficult. If I'm already in a one-on-one situation, I'm good, but to be in a crowd, trying to flirt or attract men, I'm horrible. I'm working on it, but horrible, nonetheless.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? Alcohol makes it easier!
Seriously, though, it takes the edge off.
I tend to attract both equally.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I like both, BUT I have a tendency to slightly prefer men who are a bit more extroverted. Not where they're obnoxious and annoying and have to speak to everyone, but a little more extroverted than me.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? Alcohol makes it easier!
Seriously, though, it takes the edge off.I tend to attract both equally.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I like both, BUT I have a tendency to slightly prefer men who are a bit more extroverted. Not where they're obnoxious and annoying and have to speak to everyone, but a little more extroverted than me.
BeautifulFlower
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^^^ Alcohol makes everything a little easier. 
Do you find dating difficult?
I haven't dated much. (Been living in the middle of nowhere past few years). But no, even tho I'm introverted I'm a flirt and I'm usually pretty comfortable around men. I actually think it helps, I'm alone a lot and men are more likely to approach you when you don't have a gang of people with you all the time.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts??
After reviewing all of the men I usually deal w/in my head, I've always attracted and been attracted to extroverts. Every single guy I talk to is extremely extroverted usually. I think I like how they are opposite of me so I find it intriguing and they feel the same about me. However, looking at the massive failures of the past, I'm actually going to keep my eyes peeled for another introvert to see how that dynamic plays out.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted?
In the past, ALWAYS extroverts.
I haven't dated much. (Been living in the middle of nowhere past few years). But no, even tho I'm introverted I'm a flirt and I'm usually pretty comfortable around men. I actually think it helps, I'm alone a lot and men are more likely to approach you when you don't have a gang of people with you all the time.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts??
After reviewing all of the men I usually deal w/in my head, I've always attracted and been attracted to extroverts. Every single guy I talk to is extremely extroverted usually. I think I like how they are opposite of me so I find it intriguing and they feel the same about me. However, looking at the massive failures of the past, I'm actually going to keep my eyes peeled for another introvert to see how that dynamic plays out.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted?
In the past, ALWAYS extroverts.
~~HoneyComb~~
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I'm very introverted and when I was single I didn't date much (didn't love the dating scene), but I was asked out a lot--I'm a "smiler" by nature, so I'm sure that made me approachable.
I was introduced to DH through his brother---my DH is somewhere in the middle, not very introverted but not very extroverted either.
I was introduced to DH through his brother---my DH is somewhere in the middle, not very introverted but not very extroverted either.
Etherealsmile
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^^^ Alcohol makes everything a little easier.
you ain't no damn good!
IA with you though
Etherealsmile
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Introverts:
Do you find dating difficult? Actually no which is surprising, i'm very shy but I guess there's something about me that (when i was slimmer ROTFL) used to draw men to me like magnets. I suppose it is my warm, easy going smile and personality. All my exes could sense I was shy and went out of their way to make me comfortable for which i'll always be grateful
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? Once i'm comfortable around a guy i tend to open up and the conversation flows very easily, i've also been told i'm quite easy to talk to...you wouldn't believe the number of secrets i've been told over the course of my dating life
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I prefer extroverts and I somehow managed to attract mostly extroverted men...still trying to figure out how i did that. I tend to believe i need a polar opposite of myself to balance a relationship out. Otherwise things might get a bit weird
Do you find dating difficult? Actually no which is surprising, i'm very shy but I guess there's something about me that (when i was slimmer ROTFL
) used to draw men to me like magnets. I suppose it is my warm, easy going smile and personality. All my exes could sense I was shy and went out of their way to make me comfortable for which i'll always be gratefulWhat makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? Once i'm comfortable around a guy i tend to open up and the conversation flows very easily, i've also been told i'm quite easy to talk to...you wouldn't believe the number of secrets i've been told over the course of my dating life
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I prefer extroverts and I somehow managed to attract mostly extroverted men...still trying to figure out how i did that
. I tend to believe i need a polar opposite of myself to balance a relationship out. Otherwise things might get a bit weird
Britt
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YESSS! Raises hand.. I find it difficult! I've gone on 2 dates, one was a nightmare and the other was a flop. In any event, b/c I'm doing online dating..at first I was very apprehensive about even speaking to dudes on the phone. It wasn't shyness so much as discomfort b/c I don't take pleasure in small talk and speaking to total strangers like that.
Anyway, from speaking to several dudes and playing the dating game... honestly, if I don't go out on another date UNTIL I meet 'the one' i'd be A OK! I just feel like it's a waste of time. I feel like if I were more extroverted and gregarious and enjoyed others' company w/o it culminating to anything significant dating would be MUCH easier. But b/c I hate small talking and I just want to find that connection, I find some of these phone conversations a bit.. uneasy, annoying, boring, useless ... This is the main reason (subconsciously) all along why I've been a serial monagamist. I have to come 'out my comfort zone' a bit and meet new people, seeing if we are compatibile, going through rejection ... this is something I don't generally take pleasure in doing.
I think extroverts have a far easier time when it comes to dating. At least, I think they handle it better.
Oddly, I'm def more drawn to men who are more extroverted. I don't think I could be with someone as introverted as myself. It would be great to find someone somwhere in the middle
Anyway, from speaking to several dudes and playing the dating game... honestly, if I don't go out on another date UNTIL I meet 'the one' i'd be A OK! I just feel like it's a waste of time. I feel like if I were more extroverted and gregarious and enjoyed others' company w/o it culminating to anything significant dating would be MUCH easier. But b/c I hate small talking and I just want to find that connection, I find some of these phone conversations a bit.. uneasy, annoying, boring, useless ... This is the main reason (subconsciously) all along why I've been a serial monagamist. I have to come 'out my comfort zone' a bit and meet new people, seeing if we are compatibile, going through rejection ... this is something I don't generally take pleasure in doing.
I think extroverts have a far easier time when it comes to dating. At least, I think they handle it better.
Oddly, I'm def more drawn to men who are more extroverted. I don't think I could be with someone as introverted as myself. It would be great to find someone somwhere in the middle
Makenzie
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Introverts:
Do you find dating difficult? Yes!!! I'm not good at 'getting' dates as mentioned up thread. Once I'm dating someone I'm fine. When I'm with my friends, or when I feel at ease in a situation, I'm straight. Laughing, teasing, just having fun. But to get a guys attention to come talk to me from across the room, nah, I'm bad at that. I will ignore him for the entire night if he doesn't come talk to me. Backwards I know.
What makes it easier for you? Alcohol. And just knowing that if nothing changes, then nothing changes. So I push myself.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I prefer extroverted because honestly it pushes me out of my comfort zone. I'm much more outgoing now than when I was younger. It works out, because I tend to attract extroverted men.
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Do you find dating difficult? Yes!!! I'm not good at 'getting' dates as mentioned up thread. Once I'm dating someone I'm fine. When I'm with my friends, or when I feel at ease in a situation, I'm straight. Laughing, teasing, just having fun. But to get a guys attention to come talk to me from across the room, nah, I'm bad at that. I will ignore him for the entire night if he doesn't come talk to me.
Backwards I know.What makes it easier for you? Alcohol.
And just knowing that if nothing changes, then nothing changes. So I push myself.Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I prefer extroverted because honestly it pushes me out of my comfort zone. I'm much more outgoing now than when I was younger. It works out, because I tend to attract extroverted men.
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bluediamond0829
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Do you find dating difficult? YESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!! I can probably go a year or so without having a date. Its very hard and I know I need to get out more but I'm still very shy and quiet and if I don't know a group of people or feel comfortable then I shy away and I am the first one to leave. I'm the same way Pretty_Brown_Eyes is when she stated with friends, im great laughing and having a good time. But when it comes to flirting or talking to men its a no go for me. As I've gotten older I've come out of my shell more because I used to really shy away from even speaking or asking questions to men.(is that odd? or I just wouldn't feel comfortable maybe its just me being self-conscious--i think thats what it is more then anything...not being confidant.)
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts??I attrrach a mixture of both. Its easier for me when I do get out and start to socialize and I'm around friends(I know some men are intimidated by this) but it brings me out even more at times. Or also if I'm feeling good about myself(hair done, nails done, nice outfit and feeling confidant)
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I perfer someone that is a mixture because I don't want someone that is all up in everyone elses faces and has to be out all the time and knows a whole list of people. My ex was that way and couldn't network to save his life to even get a better job but could go out and drink with any and everyone---or he was the type that had to be seen ALL the time. I hate that thats annoying to me.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts??I attrrach a mixture of both. Its easier for me when I do get out and start to socialize and I'm around friends(I know some men are intimidated by this) but it brings me out even more at times. Or also if I'm feeling good about myself(hair done, nails done, nice outfit and feeling confidant)
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I perfer someone that is a mixture because I don't want someone that is all up in everyone elses faces and has to be out all the time and knows a whole list of people. My ex was that way and couldn't network to save his life to even get a better job but could go out and drink with any and everyone---or he was the type that had to be seen ALL the time. I hate that thats annoying to me.
tinkat
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ppp422
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Do you find dating difficult? Finding meaningful connections is difficult, not attracting men. I have to go out of my way to change my routine and put myself "out there" because I am usually in my comfort zone.
What makes it easier for you? Only increased time around the guy makes me more comfortable.
Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? I attract both, but the extroverts are more forward and serious.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? At this point, I prefer extroverts. One of us has to get the ball rolling and it surely won't be me..........My friends describe me as a focused, "go getter" so I find those same qualities appealing in a man.
What makes it easier for you? Only increased time around the guy makes me more comfortable.
Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? I attract both, but the extroverts are more forward and serious.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? At this point, I prefer extroverts. One of us has to get the ball rolling and it surely won't be me.....
.....My friends describe me as a focused, "go getter" so I find those same qualities appealing in a man.
cheryl26
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yes it was difficult as i am shy and not much of a talker either. i think i attracted both intros and extros but never really found much interest in anyone. i was basically tossed into a situation with my first bf (dh) through my bestfriend's boyfriend, who was very charming, persuasive and pretty much didn't care if i spoke 5 words on a date. he's in between, usually prefers quietness and pondering but in a group he can talk/laugh it up and works hard to get what he wants.
Maracujá
November 2020 --> 14 years natural!!!
Do you find dating difficult? Not really, once someone that I like asks me out I'm good to go lol
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? What makes it easier is if the guy is easygoing and knows how to break the ice. I will rarely start up a conversation but I know how to maintain one if the guy starts. I usually attract men who are in between.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I prefer men who are a bit of both, I do not like men who have to be the life of the party ALL the time but I'd hate to be with someone who can't even hold his own in a conversation.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts?? What makes it easier is if the guy is easygoing and knows how to break the ice. I will rarely start up a conversation but I know how to maintain one if the guy starts. I usually attract men who are in between.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? I prefer men who are a bit of both, I do not like men who have to be the life of the party ALL the time but I'd hate to be with someone who can't even hold his own in a conversation.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Although I consider myself at least 50% introverted, people who know me well almost always say I'm more extroverted, I'm just reserved at times.
Do you find dating difficult?
Attracting men is never my issue. It's finding connections with men and it has nothing to do with me being introverted. Once a man says or does something to get my attention (provided it's positive), I'm in lol.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts??
I attract both.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted?
I prefer a balance. I like men at least slightly more extroverted than I am. I find more introverted guys are often too shy to make the first move and are passive. I want to be pursued and a man that takes action. However I do not want a total extrovert who always has to be the center of attention.
Do you find dating difficult?
Attracting men is never my issue. It's finding connections with men and it has nothing to do with me being introverted. Once a man says or does something to get my attention (provided it's positive), I'm in lol.
What makes it easier for you? Do you attract men who are introverts or extroverts??
I attract both.
Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted?
I prefer a balance. I like men at least slightly more extroverted than I am. I find more introverted guys are often too shy to make the first move and are passive. I want to be pursued and a man that takes action. However I do not want a total extrovert who always has to be the center of attention.
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This is what I'd want. In the past I've attracted life of the party types.
renren
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Do you prefer men who are introverted or extroverted? At this point, I prefer extroverts. One of us has to get the ball rolling and it surely won't be me.....
YES YES YES to the bolded....