I just wanted to give an update since this challenge is officially over. Even though I wasn't updating regularly in this thread, I was still silently participating.
I would say that my hair has made some improvements since the start. A little softer, a little longer, a little more hydrated overall.
Some random notes about what I learned or will continue to keep in mind moving forward in this journey:
1. Keeping my hair braided means I lose less hair when detangling. Hopefully by the time summer is over, I don't need to continue with the braids just because I don't like wearing them out in public (although I DO wear them out in public) and I don't want to wear them when the school year starts.
2. For the last two or so weeks, I've been doing the braids with a combo of conditioner in the bath, and then leave in conditioner out of the bath. THIS has yielded more progress than the previous months of me just wetting in the shower with no braids and without leave in conditioner.
3. Re: leave-in conditioner...If anything this challenge gave me a time frame in which I could try out one thing with minor changes and allow me to come to slow realizations.
- It took me from the beginning of this year until these past two weeks to realize that my hair is doing so much better with wetting it twice a day rather than once a day or every other day.
- Water running from the bath is significantly more effective than running from the shower.
- Cheap products can work as long as I make sure my hair is really wet which is great because I live right next door to a grocery store and can easily go and repurchase them when I'm out.
4. There's a very specific feeling that the more hydrated sections of my hair tend to feel like when I'm wetting and applying conditioner....I mentally refer to it as a seaweedy feeling. It means my hair feels soft, wet, and slippery. This is a good sign, in my opinion, and I think this is the feeling that I want to feel all of the time on all of my hair when I do it. So this is like a new benchmark goal or something for me. It mostly happens in the front half of my hair. The back seems to be more dry. The front also tends to have a stronger wave pattern when wet and conditioned, whereas the back tends to frizz and poof more.
The last two weeks or so has made me very excited for the future of my hair. Now I have definitive proof that my hair can be soft and curly and shiny. I might post pics in the next week (to compare with the other pic I posted back in March/April).
Long story long: sometimes it takes me 4 months to finally hear the click in my brain to get things to work.