UGQueen
Active Member
Hi ladies I'm here to vent and maybe get some help from you ladies.
I have had a long standing issue with my mother and I'm just about to loose my mind (actually I lost it a long time ago).
My mom has always been financially irresponsible, growing up I remember us always being in debt, me not getting to experience all the things that my friends had due to our debt etc. Mind u I did have a nice childhood but looking back I know things could've been better.
My father and mom separated when I was three and he died when I was 12.
When I was 13 we moved from Europe to North America to start a better life. And some ten years later we (she) is back at square one. But only this time she has managed to ruin it for me too.
She has asked me to take out cell phones that she hasn't paid and now in turn has put me in collections. She struggles to pay the rent in time and lacks real motivation to get out there and find work. Claiming that there is too much competition etc.
I'm trying my best to save and build my future by licensing myself as a real estate agent but she just keeps bringing me down with her irresponsibility. I tell her to communicate to me if she has issues paying bills but she never does and instead let's it get to collections.
I just don't know what to do anymore I feel like I have lost my mother and I fear that when I leave home her life will have a major downturn.
I am looking to move out but I'm scared to leave home. If I move my whole family will have to move including my 15 yo sister and older brother.
What can I do ? What should I say to her. I feel like no matter what she doesn't listen or even care that much. She says she cares but her actions speak volumes.
As a result of all this ongoing I'm not myself. I'm angry all the time. I cry at everything and I don't feel good about myself anymore. My relationship with my boyfriend suffers because of this as well. I feel like now we get into financial arguments more than ever. (I also have a subconscious fear that if he cant provide for us i will in turn be taking care of him the way I've been taking care of my mother). There is always tension at home and I spend most of my time at work distracting myself or in my room watching tv which is sad IMO.
Anyway jus woke up mid sleep to write this cuz there is no one else to talk to that can give me a decent opinion besides 'why does she treat u like that'. *sigh*
Nite..
I have had a long standing issue with my mother and I'm just about to loose my mind (actually I lost it a long time ago).
My mom has always been financially irresponsible, growing up I remember us always being in debt, me not getting to experience all the things that my friends had due to our debt etc. Mind u I did have a nice childhood but looking back I know things could've been better.
My father and mom separated when I was three and he died when I was 12.
When I was 13 we moved from Europe to North America to start a better life. And some ten years later we (she) is back at square one. But only this time she has managed to ruin it for me too.
She has asked me to take out cell phones that she hasn't paid and now in turn has put me in collections. She struggles to pay the rent in time and lacks real motivation to get out there and find work. Claiming that there is too much competition etc.
I'm trying my best to save and build my future by licensing myself as a real estate agent but she just keeps bringing me down with her irresponsibility. I tell her to communicate to me if she has issues paying bills but she never does and instead let's it get to collections.
I just don't know what to do anymore I feel like I have lost my mother and I fear that when I leave home her life will have a major downturn.
I am looking to move out but I'm scared to leave home. If I move my whole family will have to move including my 15 yo sister and older brother.
What can I do ? What should I say to her. I feel like no matter what she doesn't listen or even care that much. She says she cares but her actions speak volumes.
As a result of all this ongoing I'm not myself. I'm angry all the time. I cry at everything and I don't feel good about myself anymore. My relationship with my boyfriend suffers because of this as well. I feel like now we get into financial arguments more than ever. (I also have a subconscious fear that if he cant provide for us i will in turn be taking care of him the way I've been taking care of my mother). There is always tension at home and I spend most of my time at work distracting myself or in my room watching tv which is sad IMO.
Anyway jus woke up mid sleep to write this cuz there is no one else to talk to that can give me a decent opinion besides 'why does she treat u like that'. *sigh*
Nite..