BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
Ok, this situation is very sensitive and I want to do the right thing but I am a little conflicted.
My ex-boyfriend and I had a very bad break up exactly two years ago today. It was a very traumatic event that only until recently I was able to fully acknowledge my unforgiveness and let him and what happened go.
New Year's Day this year at 3 in the morning he sent me a text message breaking the silence. His note said something to the degree of well wishes and I still have love for you in my heart. I was a bit irritated and tickled because I've always known I was the best thing to ever happen to him even though he treated me second rate. I never responded.
I felt led to reconcile with him 3 weeks ago. I was going to send him a note today asking to meet up with him. I already know that I would never be with him again (he treated me terribly, he has bad credit, he's lazy, and he has a son [convinced when we were together] that he does not proudly own up to).
But whenever I would go to send him the note, I'd freeze up and not send it. I was convinced this was the right thing to do for the Lord commands that we live peaceably with all, always ready to forgive, and love unconditionally even our enemies.
Me not being able to put this mess behind me has definitely hindered my ability to have a successful romantic relationship over the past couple of years. My family has nicknamed me "maneater" because "I love em, and leave em" they say. It really hit me hard when a guy I was recently dating and I fell in love with, left me. I knew something had to change.
So I know this is alot of details but ultimately I want to be able to move on, truly let go, not have beef with my past, and allow God to lead me into a successful loving relationship.
Would you go and see him? Would you just send a note? Would you forgive and not contact him at all?
My ex-boyfriend and I had a very bad break up exactly two years ago today. It was a very traumatic event that only until recently I was able to fully acknowledge my unforgiveness and let him and what happened go.
New Year's Day this year at 3 in the morning he sent me a text message breaking the silence. His note said something to the degree of well wishes and I still have love for you in my heart. I was a bit irritated and tickled because I've always known I was the best thing to ever happen to him even though he treated me second rate. I never responded.
I felt led to reconcile with him 3 weeks ago. I was going to send him a note today asking to meet up with him. I already know that I would never be with him again (he treated me terribly, he has bad credit, he's lazy, and he has a son [convinced when we were together] that he does not proudly own up to).
But whenever I would go to send him the note, I'd freeze up and not send it. I was convinced this was the right thing to do for the Lord commands that we live peaceably with all, always ready to forgive, and love unconditionally even our enemies.
Me not being able to put this mess behind me has definitely hindered my ability to have a successful romantic relationship over the past couple of years. My family has nicknamed me "maneater" because "I love em, and leave em" they say. It really hit me hard when a guy I was recently dating and I fell in love with, left me. I knew something had to change.
So I know this is alot of details but ultimately I want to be able to move on, truly let go, not have beef with my past, and allow God to lead me into a successful loving relationship.
Would you go and see him? Would you just send a note? Would you forgive and not contact him at all?