Hello Ladies,
My roommate lost her second son today. She is a friend of my mother's who moved in about 5 years ago and when my mom moved out of state a couple of years ago she stayed there with her son, Justin.
On June 15, 2008, her son Darnell,19 at the time, was killed while taking his cousins home at around midnight. He was a very good kid. No gang activity whatsoever. Just at the wrong place at the wrong time. I had to be super strong and help her that night along with other people. But I made it my responsibility to be right there for everything. THANK GOD my mom flew in from Atlanta to San Diego to help. I was just so emotionally wrecked I couldn't believe it. But, we got through it and she was starting to get her life back on track.
Well... at my mother calls me frantic saying "I think Justin is dead!" My whole body went into a panic. I could not believe it. At the time I didn't know how he passed. She told me that She had called my mother screaming "he's gone, he's gone". And she wanted me to call her. Well... I couldn't at first. I kept saying to my sister I can't do this again... I don't even know what to say. But, she told me to call her. So when I called her she was a wreck I could just tell and my inner strength (God) kicked in and I was just like Where are you? I'm coming... But then I kept crying when I was speaking to everyone else. But, then my best friend (who really surprised me because she is usually so unemotional) called and was like do you want me to come with you?? And I was like yeah. So I drove up there with her sister and her and they were cracking me up so I felt so much better. Better equipped to handle the situation.
Turns out he passed away in his sleep. He was 18. He came home from a party saying he was tipsy and when he fell asleep he passed. They think someone might have slipped him something because his friends said he wasn't drunk and that he didn't do any drugs.
So anyways... She is doing surprisingly OK compared to the first time. I think because the circumstances were so different. But, I just know that she is so mad and probably at God. She was upset the first time and she was just starting to be able to even go to church without crying and this happens. She has always kind of had struggles. First child at 18, second at 19 and then third at 23. Also, she has basically taken care of them herself. And then also having emotional struggles. SO I just really don't know what to say to her.
So I just ask that you please pray for her and really pray that she will be able to get some type of comfort and be able to love and trust God one day. And one day soon. Also that she will not try to harm herself in anyway. She is not feeble minded or anything but she, of course, is in a different state of mind.
My roommate lost her second son today. She is a friend of my mother's who moved in about 5 years ago and when my mom moved out of state a couple of years ago she stayed there with her son, Justin.
On June 15, 2008, her son Darnell,19 at the time, was killed while taking his cousins home at around midnight. He was a very good kid. No gang activity whatsoever. Just at the wrong place at the wrong time. I had to be super strong and help her that night along with other people. But I made it my responsibility to be right there for everything. THANK GOD my mom flew in from Atlanta to San Diego to help. I was just so emotionally wrecked I couldn't believe it. But, we got through it and she was starting to get her life back on track.
Well... at my mother calls me frantic saying "I think Justin is dead!" My whole body went into a panic. I could not believe it. At the time I didn't know how he passed. She told me that She had called my mother screaming "he's gone, he's gone". And she wanted me to call her. Well... I couldn't at first. I kept saying to my sister I can't do this again... I don't even know what to say. But, she told me to call her. So when I called her she was a wreck I could just tell and my inner strength (God) kicked in and I was just like Where are you? I'm coming... But then I kept crying when I was speaking to everyone else. But, then my best friend (who really surprised me because she is usually so unemotional) called and was like do you want me to come with you?? And I was like yeah. So I drove up there with her sister and her and they were cracking me up so I felt so much better. Better equipped to handle the situation.
Turns out he passed away in his sleep. He was 18. He came home from a party saying he was tipsy and when he fell asleep he passed. They think someone might have slipped him something because his friends said he wasn't drunk and that he didn't do any drugs.
So anyways... She is doing surprisingly OK compared to the first time. I think because the circumstances were so different. But, I just know that she is so mad and probably at God. She was upset the first time and she was just starting to be able to even go to church without crying and this happens. She has always kind of had struggles. First child at 18, second at 19 and then third at 23. Also, she has basically taken care of them herself. And then also having emotional struggles. SO I just really don't know what to say to her.
So I just ask that you please pray for her and really pray that she will be able to get some type of comfort and be able to love and trust God one day. And one day soon. Also that she will not try to harm herself in anyway. She is not feeble minded or anything but she, of course, is in a different state of mind.
