ok I know to some this may seem trivial but I am 22 and as I continue to be bombarded with these articles, and shows about successful beautiful black women who remain single, I am really trying to evaluate what standards that I have that I may need to compromise on..
So for instance, I have decided that it really serves me no purpose to have height requirements: sure Im 5´10, but I´ll take a good short husband anyday
However there are a couple that I can not seem to figure out, luckily I have the wisdom of ladies from this forum to bounce my ideas off of! ( yes it took me reading this foum to understand that a man inviting me to his house IS NOT considered a date)
ANyway I am stuck on two particular things
1. TEXTING: ok I understand that it is conventient in this day and age and all, but what grown man REALLY thinks this is an aceptable form of communication when it is not HEAVILY supplemented by real conversation. I mean I tend to date guys a little older than me, and I dont know if I am being crazy to expect right out of the gate that you know better...
2. Driving. So this man I met while out, came to the realization that we live quite a distance from each other. So he asked me if I would be willing to drive out there to see him sometimes since he would also be driving out to see me. Ok I understand its a recession, but am I completley crazy to think this is out of line. I mean I am the woman! The treasure! What have you done to earn this from me?
I mean I know I have high standards, probably because my dad has always had the "if a man hasnt prepared to buy you a house and a car, and walk to the ends of the earth for you, dont even bring him over here with that nonsense"
But with those high standards, I also readily admit that a man who has earned my respect and love by treatng me like a queen, the way I think I should be treated. is the man whom I would openly give and sacrifce for.
But when I give and sacrifcie I go all the way! I mean if I love you, you can have whatever you want, and all that other stuff goes out the window. But I feel that a man should earn that.
I also feel like if this is not how a man feels intrinsicly, it will never work out. I mean apparently I sound like a man eating sadiddy, ***** to the lazy man who is used to dating a woman with out standards... meanwhile the man who already feels it is his role to be that man of character and substance and to treat a woman like a treasure will never think that because guess what I will never have to open up my mouth and tell you about yourself..
Sorry this is so long... I am still tryna figure out, how to politely tell a man what my standards are....
any advice is welcomed!
So for instance, I have decided that it really serves me no purpose to have height requirements: sure Im 5´10, but I´ll take a good short husband anyday
However there are a couple that I can not seem to figure out, luckily I have the wisdom of ladies from this forum to bounce my ideas off of! ( yes it took me reading this foum to understand that a man inviting me to his house IS NOT considered a date)
ANyway I am stuck on two particular things
1. TEXTING: ok I understand that it is conventient in this day and age and all, but what grown man REALLY thinks this is an aceptable form of communication when it is not HEAVILY supplemented by real conversation. I mean I tend to date guys a little older than me, and I dont know if I am being crazy to expect right out of the gate that you know better...
2. Driving. So this man I met while out, came to the realization that we live quite a distance from each other. So he asked me if I would be willing to drive out there to see him sometimes since he would also be driving out to see me. Ok I understand its a recession, but am I completley crazy to think this is out of line. I mean I am the woman! The treasure! What have you done to earn this from me?
I mean I know I have high standards, probably because my dad has always had the "if a man hasnt prepared to buy you a house and a car, and walk to the ends of the earth for you, dont even bring him over here with that nonsense"
But with those high standards, I also readily admit that a man who has earned my respect and love by treatng me like a queen, the way I think I should be treated. is the man whom I would openly give and sacrifce for.
But when I give and sacrifcie I go all the way! I mean if I love you, you can have whatever you want, and all that other stuff goes out the window. But I feel that a man should earn that.
I also feel like if this is not how a man feels intrinsicly, it will never work out. I mean apparently I sound like a man eating sadiddy, ***** to the lazy man who is used to dating a woman with out standards... meanwhile the man who already feels it is his role to be that man of character and substance and to treat a woman like a treasure will never think that because guess what I will never have to open up my mouth and tell you about yourself..
Sorry this is so long... I am still tryna figure out, how to politely tell a man what my standards are....
any advice is welcomed!
