bluediamond0829
Well-Known Member
Okay so I broke up with my boyfriend after 7 1/2 months of dating. He was moving too too fast as far as wanting to get married--even went to the extent of takin me to a jewelry store for rings(LOL), wanting to be in serious relationship(which caused an argument because I felt we were in dating mode) and having kids, and he wasn't ambitious or goal oriented and I just wasn't happy. He wasn't stable as far as his plans for the future....and we both are in our 30's.
But why is this fool acting like he was the best good man around? And like he has so much to offer to a woman. (big sigh rolling eyes)
Truthfully it was partly my fault because I let it carry on for7 1/2 months that it did. I felt like i was in control of the relationship,and everything in the relationship. He was a hot head at work and had a smart *** mouth so getting a promotion was out the window.
He has been living with a roommate for about 9 to 10 years, been working at the same "part-time job" for now almost 8 years. Oh and thought eventually he would be moving in probably in about a year or so(HMPH) So Bum and lazy was coming in my mind.
I'm looking for someone to complement me and not feel like they are like a grown behind child thats just take take taking.
And have you ever talked to someone and explained this to a person the importance of having stability with a mate and things that you want in a person but this person is not listening and still wanting to be with you. Yes that is him. He tries to flip ish into some dumb way of his thinking and by the time he does this your just having a blank stare and just thru with talkin to someone that doesnt get it. Yes that is him. He would make countless of excuses of why he couldnt be a man.
I'm just really just letting this out and venting because I know I made the right move and I do not regret it at all. I learned alot because I havent been in a real relationship with any man since I was in college which was about 10 years ago. So sometimes just by saying I want this in a man or that in a man its really something to face it in reality and say something isn't right. Not telling any woman on here to do what I did by having a relationship with someone that isn't on your level and meeting your expectations. I just learned not to just make do. I'm not Chili with a laundry list of things I want a man to be, but I sure will put my list of qualities for a man up and take them into consideration even more.
But why is this fool acting like he was the best good man around? And like he has so much to offer to a woman. (big sigh rolling eyes)
Truthfully it was partly my fault because I let it carry on for7 1/2 months that it did. I felt like i was in control of the relationship,and everything in the relationship. He was a hot head at work and had a smart *** mouth so getting a promotion was out the window.
He has been living with a roommate for about 9 to 10 years, been working at the same "part-time job" for now almost 8 years. Oh and thought eventually he would be moving in probably in about a year or so(HMPH) So Bum and lazy was coming in my mind.
I'm looking for someone to complement me and not feel like they are like a grown behind child thats just take take taking.
And have you ever talked to someone and explained this to a person the importance of having stability with a mate and things that you want in a person but this person is not listening and still wanting to be with you. Yes that is him. He tries to flip ish into some dumb way of his thinking and by the time he does this your just having a blank stare and just thru with talkin to someone that doesnt get it. Yes that is him. He would make countless of excuses of why he couldnt be a man.
I'm just really just letting this out and venting because I know I made the right move and I do not regret it at all. I learned alot because I havent been in a real relationship with any man since I was in college which was about 10 years ago. So sometimes just by saying I want this in a man or that in a man its really something to face it in reality and say something isn't right. Not telling any woman on here to do what I did by having a relationship with someone that isn't on your level and meeting your expectations. I just learned not to just make do. I'm not Chili with a laundry list of things I want a man to be, but I sure will put my list of qualities for a man up and take them into consideration even more.
Cause peace of mind is wonderful. And your credit is still intact.
. He sounds like he cared a lot for you and you for him. He just didn't have enough going for him which is unfortunate.
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