I'm sad...

loveafterwar

loveafterwar

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That after tonight I will be officially be rejoing the single crowd and have to deal with this abismal dating game :sad:
 
Awww :bighug:. We will load you up with love and encouragement in the Singles Ladies thread... just remember to bring your leotard. :love2:

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It hurts I know. I am back on the market too! BUT it is for the best. It may feel like a loss but now you can get back to you and be with a man who will make you forget your heart was ever broken when the time is right.
 
I think it makes me more upset because I tried to work it out but he just ignored me and refused to communicate with me. Just totally disregarded me and my feelings like I don't mean anything.
 
Go ahead and be hurt... For now. Don't stay there too long and don't wallow in those negative feeling. Shift your focus to what you have gained, what you have learned and how you will do better for yourself next time around. You are going to be fine :)
 
loveafterwar said:
I think it makes me more upset because I tried to work it out but he just ignored me and refused to communicate with me. Just totally disregarded me and my feelings like I don't mean anything.
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I'm going through the same thing dear. It's very childish and unfair but just give him his space. My family and friends have been a big support for me during this time and I've been refocusing on things that I put on hold during the relationship.
 
Lucie said:
It hurts I know. I am back on the market too! BUT it is for the best. It may feel like a loss but now you can get back to you and be with a man who will make you forget your heart was ever broken when the time is right.
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I hadn't gotten back to the rest of the thread yet, but I'm sorry to hear that Lucie.

loveafterwar said:
I think it makes me more upset because I tried to work it out but he just ignored me and refused to communicate with me. Just totally disregarded me and my feelings like I don't mean anything.
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Be glad that that fool is out of your life. He'll probably start calling again eventually, but hopefully by that time, he'll be out of your system.
 
Lucie said:
It hurts I know. I am back on the market too! BUT it is for the best. It may feel like a loss but now you can get back to you and be with a man who will make you forget your heart was ever broken when the time is right.
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What Lucie ???? Over that BS that you posted about? Dang, like I always say, that type of crap is why ninja's end up an episode of SNAPPED.
 
It's better to know now, rather than wasting even more time with the wrong person.

Once you get pass this period, you will be open to finding your true match.
 
ThickHair said:
What Lucie ???? Over that BS that you posted about? Dang, like I always say, that type of crap is why ninja's end up an episode of SNAPPED.
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ThickHair, nope, LOL! I realized he was always snapping at me. Putting me down. And making me feel worse after seeing/speaking to him. I always was making excuses for his behavior. I decided to start my New Year boo-less but with tons of self-respect. I have a great weekend planned with dates. I am going to live my life and be happy I got out when I did. My dates are nothing serious but an ego boost. :lol: I ain't trying to settle down no time soon. I realized when I had nothing to contribute in the King thread he had to go! :yep:

I apologize for jacking your thread OP. :sad:

loveafterwar, how are you feeling today? I know night time is the hardest but hopefully you can look at this thread and others to make you feel better. I am sorry you feel bad but we are all here for you girl! (((HUGS)))
 
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Lucie said:
It hurts I know. I am back on the market too! BUT it is for the best. It may feel like a loss but now you can get back to you and be with a man who will make you forget your heart was ever broken when the time is right.
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Lucie
WAIT
I thought yall had gotten back together?
 
Lucie said:
@ThickHair, nope, LOL! I realized he was always snapping at me. Putting me down. And making me feel worse after seeing/speaking to him. I always was making excuses for his behavior. I decided to start my New Year boo-less but with tons of self-respect. I have a great weekend planned with dates. I am going to live my life and be happy I got out when I did. My dates are nothing serious but an ego boost. :lol: I ain't trying to settle down no time soon. I realized when I had nothing to contribute in the King thread he had to go! :yep:

@ Lucie
Girl! You got dated lined up already?? Tell me what your doing so I can get some dates for these holiday parties, lol. My Man-cation is not by choice

BTW...I'm dead serious Lucie!!!
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I feel a little bit better. I guess it does give me more time to focus on wrapping up the semester since its almost over.
 
loveafterwar

I know that feeling of fighting for something because in your heart you know it can work but the other party just isn't having it. It's the most hurtful thing ever. You feel so violated, abused and trampled on. Breakups are hard anyway and it makes a difference when you both have agreed to end things but when one person wants to make it work and the other doesn't, it makes the sting that much greater. The whole thing left me feeling like I had done something wrong or was there something I could have done better in the relationship. I'm still dealing with some emotions even as I type this to you. It will get better but you have to let it and realize it's ok if you are down in the dumps for a few days, it's okay if need a few days off of work or school. Technically you are grieving a loss and going through the stages of grief. If you feel you need therapy, never hesitate to seek help. Do yourself a favor and stay away from the online dating support thread until you have progressed through your stages of grief. One of the biggest fears people have after breakups is the fear of getting back out there. Take one thing at a time. And here is a big ole hug from me sis (((((((hugs))))).
 
karebear0610 said:
Lucie said:
@ThickHair, nope, LOL! I realized he was always snapping at me. Putting me down. And making me feel worse after seeing/speaking to him. I always was making excuses for his behavior. I decided to start my New Year boo-less but with tons of self-respect. I have a great weekend planned with dates. I am going to live my life and be happy I got out when I did. My dates are nothing serious but an ego boost. :lol: I ain't trying to settle down no time soon. I realized when I had nothing to contribute in the King thread he had to go! :yep:

@ Lucie
Girl! You got dated lined up already?? Tell me what your doing so I can get some dates for these holiday parties, lol. My Man-cation is not by choice

BTW...I'm dead serious Lucie!!!
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karebear0610, I text messaged a few old contacts to say HELLO and see how their Thanksgivings were. And they all want to tell me in person over dinner and dancing. :look: :lol:
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karebear0610 said:
Lucie said:
@ThickHair, nope, LOL! I realized he was always snapping at me. Putting me down. And making me feel worse after seeing/speaking to him. I always was making excuses for his behavior. I decided to start my New Year boo-less but with tons of self-respect. I have a great weekend planned with dates. I am going to live my life and be happy I got out when I did. My dates are nothing serious but an ego boost. :lol: I ain't trying to settle down no time soon. I realized when I had nothing to contribute in the King thread he had to go! :yep:

@ Lucie
Girl! You got dated lined up already?? Tell me what your doing so I can get some dates for these holiday parties, lol. My Man-cation is not by choice

BTW...I'm dead serious Lucie!!!
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Girl, I knew my boo was about to break up with me a week in advance so being from Atlanta, a sista MUST have game and that's a fact!!! Anyway the week before, I put a profile on a dating site and the day we broke up, I had a date that night and I made sure I told him about it. Like Lucie, not looking for anything serious, just an ego boost.
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Brighteyes35 said:
@loveafterwar

I know that feeling of fighting for something because in your heart you know it can work but the other party just isn't having it. It's the most hurtful thing ever. You feel so violated, abused and trampled on. Breakups are hard anyway and it makes a difference when you both have agreed to end things but when one person wants to make it work and the other doesn't, it makes the sting that much greater. The whole thing left me feeling like I had done something wrong or was there something I could have done better in the relationship. I'm still dealing with some emotions even as I type this to you. It will get better but you have to let it and realize it's ok if you are down in the dumps for a few days, it's okay if need a few days off of work or school. Technically you are grieving a loss and going through the stages of grief. If you feel you need therapy, never hesitate to seek help. Do yourself a favor and stay away from the online dating support thread until you have progressed through your stages of grief. One of the biggest fears people have after breakups is the fear of getting back out there. Take one thing at a time. And here is a big ole hug from me sis (((((((hugs))))).
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That's exactly how I feel. I didn't do anything wrong, but yet he called himself giving me time to think about what I'd done :rolleyes: I'm not the one who decided to spend Thanksgiving with my friends, cancel our Friday plans and decided to go to Austin knowing we were in the middle of an argument, not text or call me the whole time you're there, don't come back on the day you said you were, and when I called to talk about it you sent my call to voicemail.:ohwell: I'm angry all over again lol.
 
loveafterwar said:
That's exactly how I feel. I didn't do anything wrong, but yet he called himself giving me time to think about what I'd done :rolleyes: I'm not the one who decided to spend Thanksgiving with my friends, cancel our Friday plans and decided to go to Austin knowing we were in the middle of an argument, not text or call me the whole time you're there, don't come back on the day you said you were, and when I called to talk about it you sent my call to voicemail.:ohwell: I'm angry all over again lol.
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:lol::lol:I know that's right!

Please focus your energy on schoolwork and taking care of yourself (exercise, good nutritious food, facial, etc). I promise you that is the best revenge.
 
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