I grew up with my dad saying how much he hated weaves and braids and tings of that nature (sorry, ya'll - been watching The Waterboy a lot lately). I loved getting braids, though because I never had to do anything but wake up and go so I would get them a lot. He of course was always mad about it. I never got a weave though because he woulda really freaked out. After so many years of hearing this kind of stuff, I had a real problem with even the idea of me getting a weave. I didn't have a problem with phony ponies or braids, but an actual weave or a wig was NOT gonnna ever be in my head. Then I discovered LHCF and realized that my hair did it's best when I was braided or hiding it. I still didn't actually relent and get a weave until juss yesterday, though. And I am definitely gonna get a wig made by September. I wanna try and hide my hair until January, but I also love wearing my hair down so I think I'll hide it for 3-4 weeks at a time and then go from there.
People asking if it's a weave? I don't care. I know that I have some nice hair so I don't care if they know it's not mine or not. If people ask, I let them know. And if they don't I pretty much juss let them think what they will till they ask. I work with a lot of white people, too, and don't think nothing of telling them no, it ain't mine. Hell, I had on one of those bun covers made out of hair and the thing fell off at work and I didn't notice. Two of my male co-workers were coming down the hallway and saw it and told me something was on the floor by the door I had juss walked out of. One of them was walking towards it to pick it up, but then when I said "oh, it's prolly my hair", he did an about face quick!
Girl, you know I didn't care though. I went right over and picked it up and put it right back on. Another time, one of my female co-workers was saying something about how cute my hair looked (I had in the same bun), and I tried to tell her it wasn't mine. She didn't get what I was saying, so I took it off to show her. One of our managers wears weaves and wigs all the time. I think it was almost a year before our department even saw her real hair. The thing with her though, is her hair is very damaged. I know she's on a bunch of meds, so maybe that is part of the problem. I also don't think she really takes care of her hair underneath the wigs or weaves. I am tempted to say something to her, but always chicken out. It's her hair, and she a grown woman. She cain't figure it out for herself or ask, it's her problem.
Anyway, back on topic. Girl, get one if that's really what you wanna do and if you wanna get one that don't look nothing but fake, that's your choice too! But there's no reason to be embarrassed. I know it's not an easy thing to get over, but it seems like juss thinking about getting one you are taking steps towards reversing your thinking and feelings about weaves.
Oh i had to reply to this.. mama.. try it and im going to tell you what hair to use for your first time.. REMI VELVET YAKI.. match exactly to your color which looks like a 1b. it can be used over and over for as long as you keep it up. wrap and tie up your hair every night.
. the rest of you hair should be braided in a bee hive and if you'd like.. covered with a hair net to minimize damage from brushing or combing. 
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