Men are biologically deaf. Listening isn't there forte. lol
There's a reason they like video games, love strippers & nudie mags, can spot a woman from the opposite side of a dark room, inclined to manual labor and will drive around lost for hours instead of asking for directions. Ever notice boys are more likely than girls to be diagnosed with ADHD? Even little boys master the art of tuning their mother and sisters out before they hit pre-K.
Men are visual. All they know are actions.
Incessant discussion, nagging and b*tching will get you nowhere with males. You've got 5 seconds to speak before the quit listening and zone out into man-land. The best way to capture a man's attention to be heard is to focus on your own behavior. Lead by example. Instead of complaining, correcting or chastizing about what you don't like or what needs to change simply don't entertain things that are negative/inadequate/contradictory to your intent or goal. Regardless of context, talking and acknowledgement is an blatant act of personal investment. Don't invest in things or matters that go against your needs/values. Invest and entertain the positive or what is important to you.
Also men have low self-esteem. lol That's why they'll keep the no-good friends for a lifetime and will put up with a crazyarse mama sucking the life's blood out of him until she hits the grave. Although men may not like talking or listening, they love and need attention. Attention is validation to males. Not just any attention, the right attention from the right person. Any male--lover, friend or fam-- that respects you and is into you will chase after your attention and approval because your acknowledgment validates his ego. Ignore the bs by primarily rewarding the positive. You'll only ever need to communicate yourself once then let your actions do the rest of the talking.
This reminds me of a girlfriend of mine who's always frustrated that her man is complacent, doesnt put much effort into her/relationship and drags his feet about almost everything.. Men only do what they HAVE to do. They don't volunteer for ish they don't feel like doing. lol a He doesnt HAVE to so he doesnt. Like if she stopped calling him every 5 mins, stopped entertaining important discussions via text, putting out after carryout on the couch or investing so much time & attention nagging about bs he isnt doing she might see different results. Instead of focusing all her energy or him she needs to invest more into herself. The change in her behavior creates a sense of urgency without the negativity or attacking. Since (or if) he loves her, he's still going to want/need her time and attention but would naturally have to work a lil harder and adjust accordingly to get it.
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