If you have children how long would you wait before moving in with him?

Ballpark figure?

  • At least a month

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 1 to 7 months

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • 7 months to a year

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • At least a year

    Votes: 5 6.5%

  • At least two years

    Votes: 3 3.9%

  • At least three years

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • At least four years

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Not until we were engaged (at any time)

    Votes: 6 7.8%

  • Not until after the marriage

    Votes: 54 70.1%

  • I would not ever do this

    Votes: 9 11.7%
  • Total voters
    77
  • Poll closed .
I would depend how long it took for the background investigation to be complete, me to meet >50% of his family (1 at least had to be a parent or agreed upon substitute), the hair on the back of my neck to remain flat at the prospect of a non-parent co-habitating with my child, and when the ring has been given, the marriage license signed, and the vows exchanged.

My cousin was saying our home R&B radio station plays a PSA asking the mom to be careful who they let watch their children, citing that children can be hurt by a boyfriend. It's that bad that there is a PSA?! Lawd.
 
I was too scared to dare try it after I left the man that raised my daughter. For those that ain't scared to shack and are fearless I voted 2 years. I was afraid of molesters.
 
Ideally, once we're married. If need be, at some point during the engagement. I don't do cohabitation...and with kids, I think I'd be even more strict about this.
 
My fiance and I were just talking about this. We don't have kids but an acquaintance of his is going through this.

This acquaintance of his is in her 30's and has a 10 year old daughter. A few months ago I believe around October or NOvember she started dating this guy. They are now 15 weeks pregnant and apparently her and the guy she dating all moved in to his apartment last month. I personally think that is way too soon considering she has a 10 year old daughter. I've been told the daughter really likes this guy and is excited about having another sibling.

Supposedly,the mother and the new guy haven't even told each other that they love each other yet...

But to answer the question, I guess the ideal time would be once they get engaged.
 
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I'm just not sure that I could ever remarry with children. I think I would have to wait until they were in college. If I married someone who caused my children harm I don't think I could ever forgive myself.
 
hopeful said:
I'm just not sure that I could ever remarry with children. I think I would have to wait until they were in college. If I married someone who caused my children harm I don't think I could ever forgive myself.
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Would you not expect your ex husband to either? I can't imagine.
 
growinghealthyhair said:
Would you not expect your ex husband to either? I can't imagine.
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I couldn't expect the same of him or anyone else. Just speaking for myself. This is all hypothetical of course. I've been married nearly 25 years to the same man. Very grateful to not be in that position.
 
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hopeful said:
I couldn't expect the same of him or anyone else. Just speaking for myself. This is all hypothetical of course. I've been married nearly 25 years to the same man. Very grateful to not be in that position.
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people stay shocking me me on LHCF. I thought you were in your twenties!!
 
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