If you can fall in love , can't you fall out?

[gymfreak336]

If you can fall in love , can't you fall out?

Has this happened to you? How did you know?

 

[willie525]

I've always wondered this. I think you can. I'm not in love with my ex anymore, and its been about a year since we broke up. Time is key...or maybe I wasn't in love at all.

 

[cocoberry10]

I think you can “fall” in and out of anything. To me, love (at least long-lasting marriage type) is not just about “feeling,” it’s about dedication and commitment to the relationship, not just the person. Of course your SO/spouse will get on your nerves or you’ll want to kill them, but this doesn’t mean you should divorce. Something more has to keep you!

 

[MzLady78]

I totally think you can fall out of love.

You have people in my life that I still love but have no desire to be with because I'm no longer "in love' with them.

 

[audacious1]

I think you can fall in and out of love
BUT
If you truly love someone you don't ever stop loving them (so if someone tells me with conviction that they don't love me anymore, then they must not have loved me in the first place)
BUT
the love that you have for them can/does evolve


ETA: I think that's what happens in some marriages (I definitely could be wrong but this is how I like to imagine it to be). Once the euphoria (from being in love) is gone and the trick is figuring out how the marriage progresses from there. I think the worse time to marry someone is when you are in love (high off of love), because you don't know what happens when that feeling is gone (and I think it does go away). Again this is just how my unexperienced self thinks it goes. I could be in for a/n (rude) awakening.

 

[dlewis]

I think you can. I have many times. I have with Dh many times.

 

[JFemme]

I think you can. I have many times. I have with Dh many times.

Dlewis, I love your candor/ honesty.

 

[dlewis]

Dlewis, I love your candor/ honesty.

I just try to keep in real. I've been trying to stop but this is the only way I know to be.

 

[Farida]

I think love is more of a choice than people make it out to be. Sometimes you have to choose to keep loving someone or you'll fall out of it. Love is like bread, it has to be re-made. You can't keep the same loaf for 20 yrs.

 

[FlowerHair]

Of course it's possible to fall out of love. I will even force myself out of love if I have to!

Seriously, most people are no longer in love with their exes although you will always have love for them in your heart. But that's different from being "in love".

 

[Mystic]

Love does not happen automatically - it takes work to sustain it. In the very beginning of my relationship, I was in love. 2 years later, I felt estranged from my partner (we were not doing something right - lack of communication/understanding, felt like we were not growing so I forced myself to fall out of love - and almost succeeded. He realized that I had changed and that I didn't care too much about the relationship as I used to - we almost separated. He realized the seriousness of where we were at - that he could possibly loose me. Don't really know what went through his head but he changed and as a result, we fell back in love with each other. That was 7 years ago and we are still very much in love - we work at it. That experience demonstrates the fact that it is just as easy to fall in love as it is to fall out of love.