If a Man Wants You

[jamaicalovely]

[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]I saw this on another forum and thought it was good. Some may feel this is common sense, but for others it's brand new or a gentle reminder.
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[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]IF A MAN WANTS YOU[/FONT]

1. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.[/FONT]
2. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.[/FONT]
3. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.[/FONT]
4. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.[/FONT]
5. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] to be.[/FONT]
6. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Slower is better.[/FONT]
7. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] happy.[/FONT]
8. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] mistreat a friend.[/FONT]
9. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] probably is.[/FONT]
10. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Don't stay because you think "it will get better."[/FONT]
11. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]You'll be mad at yourself[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] a year later for staying when things are not better.[/FONT]
12. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]The only person you can control in a relationship is you.[/FONT]
13. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] women.[/FONT]
14. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you[/FONT]
15. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]any differently?[/FONT]
16. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Always have yo[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]ur own set of friends separate from his.[/FONT]
17. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.[/FONT]
18. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If something bothers you, speak up.[/FONT]
19. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.[/FONT]
20. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.[/FONT]
21. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] quasi-god.[/FONT]
22. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]He is a man, nothing more nothing less.[/FONT]
23. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Never let a man define who you are.[/FONT]
24. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Never borrow someone else's man.[/FONT]
25. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.[/FONT]
26. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.[/FONT]
27. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]All men are NOT dogs.[/FONT]
28. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] two-way street.[/FONT]
29. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] complimentary...not supplementary.[/FONT]
30. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] Right.[/FONT]
31. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.[/FONT]
32. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you[/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] need.[/FONT]
33. [FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Keep him in your radar but get to know others as well.[/FONT]

 

[Growinpainz]

I would send this to a friend but she may get offended lol

 

[cheetarah1980]

I would send this to a friend but she may get offended lol

I was thinking the exact same thing.

 

[isawstars]

I would send this to a friend but she may get offended lol

lol. Ditto!

 

[FlowerHair]

You know that it was us here on LHCF that wrote that list?

It was back in 2004! It's been posted over and over again here and in other places.

Here is the original thread where it all started http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=20219&page=1&highlight=lessons+relationships

It's a great list nonetheless!

ETA Here's another thread where the list has been sent out and said to be written by "a man"
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=56456

 

[c*c*chic*]

oh this is SO going into a myspace blog!

 

[jamaicalovely]

Flowerhair, thanks for the history.

I am glad to see this list going around! We as women need to read this everyday along with the bible. I will cherish this list and pass it on to my daughters one day.