IF A MAN WANTS YOU......

MzOptimistic

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I don't know if this has been posted before but I wanted to share one of my favorite poems or whatever you want to call it.

IF A MAN WANTS YOU!!!!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...............there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT..............
 
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Great poem!!

Thanks for posting this. I will have to save this and print this out. I think a lot of women need to hear and be reminded of this :yep:.
 
Good poem! You know what's funny, it was written on this very board, and not by a man. :yep: I'll try to find the thread it came from.
 
I have read all of these hints elsewhere in many different places. They all make sense.


Softresses

It would have been really nice of "old boy" to number it, bullet it, or paragraph it or something to make it a little more reader friendly..
 
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Good poem! You know what's funny, it was written on this very board, and not by a man. :yep: I'll try to find the thread it came from.


Ummmmm. Really? I got it from a Soulmate Group on black planet and the only thing I did was copy and pasted, meaning, I did not add that this was written by a man part, it was already on there:perplexed

ETA: Also a man told me he wrote this poem hisself and I told him that people have been passing it around and he said his women co-workers probably have passed it around. I don't think it's his either. I don't know who wrote but it's a great poem:yep:

ETA Again: I'll be back shortly, I'm going to look through my emails for the messages of this guy saying he wrote this :spinning: be back shortly:grin:

Okay....I'm back and I checked my messages as far back as 5 months and did not see the messages, so welp, that was that:lachen:
 
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Definitely a great post, including the entire thread of advice!

Very good for me to hear right now, too.

:yep:
 
Ummmmm. Really? I got it from a Soulmate Group on black planet and the only thing I did was copy and pasted, meaning, I did not add that this was written by a man part, it was already on there:perplexed

ETA: Also a man told me he wrote this poem hisself and I told him that people have been passing it around and he said his women co-workers probably have passed it around. I don't think it's his either. I don't know who wrote but it's a great poem:yep:

ETA Again: I'll be back shortly, I'm going to look through my emails for the messages of this guy saying he wrote this :spinning: be back shortly:grin:

Okay....I'm back and I checked my messages as far back as 5 months and did not see the messages, so welp, that was that:lachen:

:lachen::lachen::lachen:LMBO...ah well, it's still a good poem. :grin:
 
Found it - http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=20219

That's the original thread where the advice was given. There's lots more gems in there too.

i remember this thread. my bff forwarded that email to me a coupla months ago and when i tried to tell her that it was gathered from a thread from LHCF she didn't readily believe me :spinning: :lol: i tried to find this thread to show her, but couldn't. thanks for posting
 
wow that is so funny that was compiled from several women on lhcf and now it circulates the internet like crazy! I had it in a blog on myspace (by unknown author--cant remember where I saw it)...and Ive seen it passed around in emails and in other peoples blogs. Too funny!
 
This is not the first time, there are a lot of lurkers here too. I know of a few that lurk here to read some of the things we discuss. Guys lurk on female sites to try and get the inside scoop, a few I know have even said that women's websites let them know the things they need to know to get into women's heads. They learn how to play us this way.


Softresses
 
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