Yeah, it's sad when it's Black ppl that ask. Non-Blacks I can understand. But if you think about it if a black person ask I chalk it up to haterism....
Wow your hair looks great! Are you transitioning? Just curious .
Sorry about your co-worker, that was obvious hateration right there, esp. because of the "your hair is a different length every time I see it" comment.
Honestly, when I get the extension question from other black women I take it as a compliment, because I think that they mean, "wow, your hair looks full."