I updated my fotki -sigh-

BlueEra

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I am not very happy with the growth (or lack thereof), but it looks healthier. I really am just thinking of giving up on trying to make it to APL right about now. On the way home from the salon after getting my relaxer, I cried so hard because I was so frustrated and hurt that I was trying to do so much and it was not helping very much. It seems like no matter what i try to do I cannot get the growth that I want.

My mom was not very much help at all, and told me if I wanted to have long hair I could just buy a weave. :ohwell: I tried to tell her that it's not the same as knowing that it's YOUR OWN hair and that you accomplished a goal to achieve a specific length. She doesnt understand how hard it is for me, and others who have hair that grows very slowly and then on top of that have to try to retain the small amount of growth that they do receive.
 
Oh, hang in there! ((((hugs:needhug:)))) I know it gets discouraging. Your hair definitely looks healthier, so you are doing something right :yep:. After health, comes the hair. Keep it growing and you will be at APL before you know it!!!
 
Awwww, sweetie don't feel that way! I feel so sad that you were crying! I just came from your album and your hair is beautiful! It is apparent that you take excellent care of it. I know that it is super had to stay patient sometimes but that's all it takes. It will eventually come!
 
Sometimes we have to look at where we started to see how far we've come. I see a HUGE difference between the VERY BEGINNING pic and today. It looks much different and healthier.


Hang in there!
 
Aww! I am sorry! I am sending you Hugs, and I understand how you feel, Just think you got it Looking healthy now if you keep doing what you are doing you will get that length that you want, Just be Patient, it will come, Don't give up! Focus on something else, this is what I have to do because I was feeling like you, so I just took everything down my pics,countdown etc. and just let my hair do what it do! You will be fine!:yep:
 
:hug2: Don't be discouraged. I feel like that pretty often. Especially after the Hide Your Hair Challenge I was a part of. It's like you're putting so much effort into your hair and it seems like you're always coming up short (no pun intended). Don't give up. It's just going to take a little longer to reach your goals than you first thought. It doesn't mean you can't reach them. Your hair looks a lot more healthier so that's a start. Sometimes health comes before length.
 
Sweetie, your hair looks GREAT!!! I would rather have shorter healthy hair like yours than a long, ragged mess anyday! Don't stress about the length. About a year ago, I was in your shoes thinkin my hair would never grow, now i'm past brastrap...and soon you will be too:yep:!
 
Hang in there, just try to be positive and patient. You and your hair are pretty. And like someone said previously, it is obvious that you take good care of your hair.:grouphug2:
 
i see a difference between the beginning and now. im in the same boat as you my hair grows very slowly too and Im trying to reach APL as well. don't give up girl. we'll get there.
 
I know exactly what you mean, every time I get close to APL I have to cut, and this year so far I have had to cut off 3" and that makes me wanna cry everytime I think about it. Tonight was 1" because I was uneven. But don't get too bent out of shape, what helps me is thinking about people who cannot grow hair or who has lost all their hair to cancer.

When you think of it that way, you began 2 c how blessed u r.

Don't give up!
 
Hang in there girl!!! Would you rather have unhealthy hair at APL that you might have to cut or healthy APL hair, I know you would pick the latter. Besides from checking your pictures you don't have that much longer to go...keep up the great work and you will be there before you know it.
 
your hair looks really healthy......health b 4 growth i say....keep up the goo work
 
Hun ur hair looks so healthy and i see progress... I know its frustrating and u want to see faster growth but it will come eventualy.. Have u been doing anything to try to promote or stimulate hair growth??
 
Keep growing, girl. You are on your way. It looks very healthy and thick; you are definitely doing a good job!
 
Thank you all for the support.

Sometimes I feel like I have done everything I could and just wonder why my hair doesn't seem to get any longer than what it is now. I have never been past SL before so this is new to me. It just seems like the growth aids and vitamins did very little to help me get the extra boost that I hoped to achieve to reach my goal. I am trying not to give up, because I know it could be much worse and I could have very little hair, if any at all. The only thing I can do now is have patience and continue with my regimen and protect my ends more.

I wanted to prove to myself that I COULD grow long, healthy hair, and right now there is no problem keeping it healthy, but I am struggling with the length. The sides are catching up fast, but the back area grows the slowest so I have to REALLY fight to keep it in tact. I don't know what else to do to get it to catch up.
 
Your hair looks great! It is so silky and the ends are even and not to metion i looked at your comparison pics in Fotki.....you could see your hair is now covering your entire neck! That is proof that you have steady growth. Keep on Keepn on!!
 
I definately wouldn't say that all your hard work over the past year hasn't paid off. From your Feb '06 pic to now, not only is your hair longer, but it is so much fuller, shiny, and all-around healthier looking. I know it can be frustrating to not see the 6 inches in one year like some people, but its about understanding your hair, how it grows, and what works for you. I personally love your hair, and before you know it, you'll be at your desired length. I have to keep telling myself everyday that its about the journey and NOT the destination. I know it corny, but just think about all the things you have learned thus far, and all the other things you have yet to learn. HTH
 
I believe that unless we start at square one with healthy, undamaged hair, with strong strands and full thick strong ends then before we can start getting the healthy strong thick long strands of hair, LENGTH, our tresses need to achieve our goals, we will all have to go through the following phases:
1. Repair
2. Recovery
3. Rest
4. Assess
5. Tweak
6. Maintain
And this goes in phases and often the cycle repeats itself. I know that is what happened with me. Some ladies hair takes much longer because we initially are experimenting with a lot of products, vitamins, etc. It takes some of us a couple of years just to get that right. Then the regime does not come immediately but sometimes months and even years before we get that right.
But if you feel that you have got "your hair needs and your body needs pretty well figured out" and your hair is looking healthy, the texture is where you want it, the ends are strong , the thickness is uniform...then just maintain what you are doing cause you are on the right track. Happy Hair Growing! bonjour
 
You have beautiful hair! It look so shiny and healthy. Do not be discouraged, this hair growth thing can be so slow sometimes. But you just keep hanging in there Sweetie, and I can promise you won't need a weave to get that length.
 
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