dicapr
Well-Known Member
Today I told my mom that I did not plan to wear my hair straight after my BC. She doesn't want me to BC, but I can't take it anymore. The relaxed hair was weak and damaged to begin with. The transition has taken its toll on the ends and now they are breaking off. I plan to cut all but 1-2 inches of the relaxer off and get braids in the next few weeks. That wasn't the bomb I dropped though. I told her I wouldn't be pressing my hair. She supports me not getting a relaxer, but can't wrap her mind around me not at least putting a warm pressing comb in my hair. I told her that reducing heat usage will save my ends and allow me to retain more growth. She tried to tell me that I would be ripping out my hair if I didn't use heat to make it more manageable. I know this isn't so because she didn't use heat on my hair until I was 11 yrs old. I had between shoulder and APL hair. I also remember my mother cutting my ends more often when she started pressing my hair on the regular basis. My hair didn't break off, but it wasn't until I relaxed that my hair started making noticable progress. I believe this was due less heat usage. I am a grown woman and it was still difficult for me when she questioned my decision to wear my own textured hair. I finially told her that although I was natural until 16, I was never able to play with my natural texture. I want that this time. I'm not anti-heat. I plan to use it on occasion until I reach my goal. I was just surprised that she was adament that I use heat and alter my natural texture on the regular basis.