I now understand salon rejection

[Blkbeautyhair]

I see why a lot of ladies here have decided not to go to salons anymore. Especially for trims (scissor happy stylists). I got a touch-up on Saturday after a 15 week stretch. I go to a Dom shop for my relaxer cause I've tried self-relaxing in the past and let's just say if I want to reach my goals and actually have hair on my head it's best that I leave the relaxing to a professional!

Well I have a trouble spot in the back where my hair tends to break off. I noticed during my stretch that this was happening again. But I figured since I was air-drying for the last 3 months that it would not be that bad. And it wasn't but when you are all up in my hair it's noticeable. Especially after a relaxer cause now my hair is straighter and that area feels thinner. Well I didn't say anything about it cause I knew it was there already and I noticed her looking at it but she did not seem alarmed so I said "ok it's my normal breakage. Nothing to worry about now that I'm on LHCF I'm learning how to correct that". So we proceed with relaxing, DC, roller setting, etc. After she was done she said "Mami I'll give you a trim next time you come in". I just nod my head ok cause I really did not feel the need to explain that I'm not getting a trim next time. My ends are fine. And they are. Right now I don't care about blunt ends but rather healthy ends. Then she says for that area in the back I think "we" should do layers so that it looks fuller. Umm can anyone tell me how cutting the rest of my hair for one little area that's covered and buried underneath hair is going to fix my problem?? How about recommending a special conditioning process or maybe I should start start using the Nioxin line of shampoos and conditioners for thinning hair. Giving me a layered hair cut that will take ages to grow out is not the answer lady. I was too thru. Clearly she did not get the memo that I'm on a mission for healthy APL then BSL hair.

I've been a victim of a trim gone wrong where too much was taken off but I've been lucky to go to stylist that put me on the road to healthy hair. Never ever have I had someone recommend something so drastic. When I got home I asked my DH to look at the back of my hair and see if he noticed anything and he said no. So then I played around in my hair and uncovered the area and he said while he felt thin he didn't look thin and you can't see that patchy area unless you dig for it. I just needed a sanity check cause I thought maybe she was right for a second.

 

[nicki6]

You are doing the right thing! I have avoided going to the salon for 6 months now because I KNOW that she will want to cut my hair into blunt ends. I blunt ends, but I'm not going to reach my goal that way. As long as my ends are healthy, no scissors for me

 

[Blkbeautyhair]

As long as my ends are healthy, no scissors for me

You can say that again!

 

[KeraKrazy]

I think I may have to give up the salons also, my hair grows faster on one side of my head than the other and I find that everytime I go for a touch up and trim the trim becomes an attempt to even up the two sides which always leads to cutting way more than necessary every time. No matter how much I try to explain that I don't mind the difference cos I mostly wear my hair in a bun anyway I always leave the salon with an even bob.

 

[sareca]

I would avoid her scissors like the plague. Layers will mask it, but I wouldn't bother. You can trim it even when you reach your goal (or at any of the milestones in between).

 

[tenderheaded]

Unevenness and "dry ends" the 2 often used reasons why stylists want to cut When I told the stylist last yr that I wear my hair up so no cut, she got mad The ends she called dry are now fluffy soft.

You wait until YOU are ready to cut. You'll be so much happier that way. I know I am

 

[BlueEra]

You have done the right thing. I had the same experience yesterday with my scissors happy stylist. She basically cut off all of the growth that I had gained in the past two months because my ends were uneven to her. She set me back 2 months of reaching my goal of SL by my birthday so now I have to make up two months of growth to reach it. erplexed If your ends look fine to YOU and you dont think you need a trim or a cut then dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Stick to reaching your goal and then decide to trim if its necessary or you want to make it look neat.

 

[Blkbeautyhair]

Thanks ladies! There is no way I'm getting my hair cut until I'm good and ready. Thankfully I can do my own roller sets and I'm really only dependant on going to the salon for touch-ups or when I need a good blow out for my roots. But since I made my 15 week stretch without the use of heat for 12 of those 15 weeks I think I'm good with no salon until next touch-up at the end of December.

o0oShamo0o I'm sorry to hear about you set back. Me and that stylist would have been boxing for real.