I met a guy - I need prayers (Quick) !!!!

[life_is_great]

I probably should have posted this in the relationship forum, but, I need some Christian advice.

I made a commitment to be celibate and I haven't dated in almost 3 months. (That's like an eternity for me). Well anyway, This guy that I met about 7 months ago called me. He said that he had lost my number and found it 3 wks ago. He wasn't going to call me, but he kept thinking about me and decided to. He has also rededicated his life to Christ and is also practicing celibacy.

This is my problem.... It is easy to practice celibacy when you are abstaining from men in your life, which is what I have been doing. I have always had problems with self control in this area. I am actually afraid to date b/c I don't want to fall. I know that if I do it one time, it's full speed ahead. How do you ladies that do have SOs handle this? I've just been talking to him on the phone and my hormones are so out of control. I've been quoting scriptures, casting down thoughts, the works. Please Help!!!!!!!!!!

 

[deola]

I probably should have posted this in the relationship forum, but, I need some Christian advice.

I made a commitment to be celibate and I haven't dated in almost 3 months. (That's like an eternity for me). Well anyway, This guy that I met about 7 months ago called me. He said that he had lost my number and found it 3 wks ago. He wasn't going to call me, but he kept thinking about me and decided to. He has also rededicated his life to Christ and is also practicing celibacy.

This is my problem.... It is easy to practice celibacy when you are abstaining from men in your life, which is what I have been doing. I have always had problems with self control in this area. I am actually afraid to date b/c I don't want to fall. I know that if I do it one time, it's full speed ahead. How do you ladies that do have SOs handle this? I've just been talking to him on the phone and my hormones are so out of control. I've been quoting scriptures, casting down thoughts, the works. Please Help!!!!!!!!!!

Hi,
I have a DH and I hope I can help in some small way!
I remember when I was courting my then BF who is now my DH, we were both celibate and we discussed the matter thoroughly. I knew where he stood and he knew where I stood on the whole celibacy issue so there really wasn't any pressure. What I'm saying is you should talk about where you stand on the celibacy issue with this guy. If both of you are really serious about it, you'd be helping each other by being accountable.
One thing that I know will help is not to be in secluded places with him, then the temptation will not be too hard to handle.
But the main thing is working on your mind cos we know the mind is a battle field. There is nothing the human mind cannot achieve once it is resolved especially a mind that is controlled by the Spirit of God and the Word (and the Word works!)
Don't get me wrong, we were tempted(DH & I and we courted for a year!) but we were very resolved to do it God's way and He saw us through( you can imagine what went down on our wedding night!)

 

[life_is_great]

Thanks. We have discussed this. I am not really concerned about him, he has been celibate for almost a year. I'm concerned about me. I just pray that I am able to make the right decision when faced with temptation.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Thanks. We have discussed this. I am not really concerned about him, he has been celibate for almost a year. I'm concerned about me. I just pray that I am able to make the right decision when faced with temptation.

When my dh and I were going to be married, we knew that God would be watching us if we decided to let ourselves go, so we both decided not to do this. If you know God is watching you, how much fun can you have? I have to say...none at all.

Just thought I'd add my 2 cents.

 

[klb120475]

When my dh and I were going to be married, we knew that God would be watching us if we decided to let ourselves go, so we both decided not to do this. If you know God is watching you, how much fun can you have? I have to say...none at all.

Just thought I'd add my 2 cents.

Good point.

 

[donna894]

I remember your beautiful testimonial a few months back sharing how you've become more active in your church and how real estate opportunities have opened up which benefited not only you but also members of your community. God brought you through a difficult time. Your thread was so uplifting, proving that when God pours out a blessing He does so generously.

You're growing stronger in your walk with the Lord. And now you're being tempted! That's to be expected. Do you really think the enemy is going to sit quietly by and watch you reunite with your Heavenly Father and receive all the blessings He has in store for you? Not a chance!! So don't feel bad. We are still in the flesh which is the enemy's battleground. Even Jesus himself was tempted for 40 days and 40 nights.

When you are tempted the most, is when you need God the most. Stay in prayer! Reach out here! Its good that your gentleman friend is on the same page so he can support you.

I hope I've helped! Where is Shimmie???

 

[life_is_great]

Thanks for the support. I just needed some encouragement. I know I can do all things through Christ, even abstaining from sex. God has been so good to me, I don't want to do anything that doesn't please Him. I've just always done what I wanted to do with my body, when I wanted to do it. It's just that now I realize my body is not my own, it belongs to my heavenly Father.