I love my natural hair I really do... But it's pissing off!

Kinkyhairlady

Kinkyhairlady

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I was determined to rock my own hair this morning for work but I could not get it to look right! Saturday I did the kcc and twisted, Sunday my hair was so shrunken I pinned them away. Sunday night I untwisted them and the the curls were defined, my hair just did not look right. Today I wake up and tried for at least 20 mins to style it to no avail. I ended up putting my wig on which I really did not want to do. How are you 4 a/b naturals styling your hair daily? My hair is short but long enough to go in a small ponytail.
 
I wear wash-n-gos and to keep my curls defined, I leave the ends loose at night. I actually plait hair into 3 large plaits but leave the ends loose. I'm also using the Keracare line for natural hair and after a lot of trial and errors with every product in the line, I've finally found what works for me.
 
Nubenap22 said:
Pics please so we can see what exactly your working with cause not every 4/b is the same!!
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Oh I have to wait till I get home to upload a pic but I'm just trying to figure out what are the easiest cute hairstyles. I can't do wash n go cause my hair does not really curl up, it's just a fro.
 
I wear alot of headbands, puffs/ponys (with a banana clip), twistouts and I try to stretch my hair with twists then style. Lately I've been wearing more buns, is your stretched hair long enough to bun. I can't do wash n go's either, my hair tangles up too much for that. It is also fine, so it looks thin styled like that.
 
do you like a puff styled with a headband? i do that on bad hair days. you can't go wrong. i don't have 4b hair, but i got major shrinkage too and i can't do wash and gos anymore. my twist outs look good to me when i'm in the mirror, but look shrunken and a mess when i take a pic. so sometimes i will just pin the sides up and wear a frohawk. a flower headband or flower hair clip makes a big different too.

oh and mine pisses me off too. i think about relaxing everyday, but then i start feeling like a loser. so i just try me best to work with what i have. i have to remind myself that this is still new to me. the longer my hair gets, everything changes. i thought i was going to be able to wear wngs for the rest of me days. that was so easy. i wasn't experience any breakage and my hair was growing like weeds. now i am struggling to find out what works best and to keep hair on my head.

i am walking on ice not to cause another setback. i could kick myself for the setback i had several months ago. i got a hold to some bad hair dye and it cause a bald spot and some breakage in my crown area. and to make things worse, it didn't even take. it washed out like it was a semi permanent.
 
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Girl, we are were in the same boat this morning!! I just said, 4B hair should always be twisted. I'm so disgusted.
 
BrownEyez22 said:
I wear alot of headbands, puffs/ponys (with a banana clip), twistouts and I try to stretch my hair with twists then style. Lately I've been wearing more buns, is your stretched hair long enough to bun. I can't do wash n go's either, my hair tangles up too much for that. It is also fine, so it looks thin styled like that.
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My stretch hair can go into a pony but it is a small one and I don't like it much. I did not stretch though cause I wanted to use kinky curly. I the twist were not so short I would have left them alone, it just did not look right on me.
 
How about pinning your hair until you get more length? I agree with the other ladies regarding bunning and braiding or twisting your hair nightly.
 
I just came in to say my wig is hot as hell...my real hair is not cooperating... I just stood in the mirror looking at my hair like this...

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I feel you girl... I'm just going to try again tommorrow...
 
Sorry you had a bad hair morning, been there....done that. For that reason I have a go-to bad hair day style which is simply a puff, esp following a failed braid/twist out. Usually my hair it far to textured to pull off a decent looking bun on those days so I either do a puff or push my headband far back and let the hair hang (sort of a low looser puff). I wish I had a pic to show you what I mean. Sorry!
 
sistatv said:
I just came in to say my wig is hot as hell...my real hair is not cooperating... I just stood in the mirror looking at my hair like this...

badgirls-t-judgingeyes.gif


I feel you girl... I'm just going to try again tommorrow...
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:lachen: Im with you im hot under this wig. I'm going to weave it in the next 2 weeks. I get frustrated with my hair too sometimes it gets less and less everyday. That's the main reason for wearing the wig i don't want to mess with it everyday.
 
Get a weave to grow it to a desirable styling length. I am 1 year post BC and now able to style my hair & if it don't work out i can bun it.
 
I did braidouts a lot. Braidouts give more length than twistouts. I'm 1 1/2in.-2in from APL and twistouts still don't look right to me yet.
 
I don't style my hair everyday. But after a lot of trial and error I know some things just don't work for me. I usually have my hair tucked away in a beanie or a wig. Also I tend to wear my hair in twists a lot.
 
You might want to practice some style on an off day for when you're not going anyway. Even though I love my natural hair, it's very unpredictable. This week I'm doing strictly wash and gos due to the heat and quickness of them.
 
sistatv said:
I just came in to say my wig is hot as hell...my real hair is not cooperating... I just stood in the mirror looking at my hair like this...

badgirls-t-judgingeyes.gif


I feel you girl... I'm just going to try again tommorrow...
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sistatv , I'm usually against quoting pics but that gif is hilarious. :lachen::lachen:

Trying not to bust out laughing at work.
 
My hair is very unpredictable and at SL with the shrinkage it's still too short to look cute in most styles. I typically keep my hair in 2 strand twists either lose or in a bun. Or I have it in a flat twist updo. On a rare occassion I will wear a puff. WNGs and out styles just look like fros on me.

Right now I'm in a ratting look self-installed box braid install. :ohwell:

I agree with one of the previous posters on practicing styles on the weekends and wearing something safe during the week. I don't do my hair midweek because there is no way I can recover without making myself late for work.
 
OP, you are not alone. When my twist outs fail, I wear a puff. I've just been putting in medium sized two-strand twists and wearing them pinned up 90% of the time lately. It's an easy, protective style and keeps my hair stretched.

sistatv said:
I just came in to say my wig is hot as hell...my real hair is not cooperating... I just stood in the mirror looking at my hair like this...

badgirls-t-judgingeyes.gif


I feel you girl... I'm just going to try again tommorrow...
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:dead:
 
KinkyCurly never worked for me... Maybe try the same thing with la bella styling gel or long aid. A braid out with medium braids maybe work well for you and it helps keep shrinkage at bay.
 
westNDNbeauty said:
I wear twist and curls or braid and curls and towards the end of the week when its looking a little shabby I always reach for my banana clip! Best invention for natural hair!
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Funny I got this yesterday at Sallys after watching kimmaytube video but it did not work, maybe my hair needs to be stretched cause the clip would not close!
 
sistatv said:
I just came in to say my wig is hot as hell...my real hair is not cooperating... I just stood in the mirror looking at my hair like this...

badgirls-t-judgingeyes.gif


I feel you girl... I'm just going to try again tommorrow...
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OMG!! That gif is hilarious..I was sittin at my desk at work and busted out laughin..this is exactly how I feel about some of my co-workers right now..phone just ringing and they hear it and not answerin da ish..lol!! Sorry I know this is off topic but vent ova thanks fa listening.. :-)
 
Just some days its like that. My hair has a mind of its own and its not always friendly. LOL

I was at a funky length and NOTHING worked. My poor styling skills don't help matters at all. It gets better.
 
I do braidouts/twistouts for about 3 days. The second day gets a headband. The third day is a puff with knee highs. :yep:
 
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