what do you mean by "doing it?" what do you do to style your hair?
i like Garnier Fructis Leave-In Conditioner. it is thick and creamy when it first goes on, but dries pretty light. good for defining and cutting down on frizz. (don't know what's in it right now though...
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also, i find that my hair frizzes and acts unruly when i need to clarify. i like ACV rinses but if you prefer a good shampoo or other method, you might try this and follow up with a deep conditioning treatment.
HTH and best of luck to you