I Keep On Falling.....

[mz tracy 25]

...In and Outta Love...with him. Am I the only one who falls in and out of "love" so quickly? It's like my emotions are crazy! One day i'm in love, and want to get married. Then the next day I don't even want to be in a relationship with this guy. Doesn't that sound strange? My brain and my heart are in battle! Somedays my heart wins, and other days my brain is in control. Which do you all think is more important?

I know my SO thinks I'm nuts lol. erplexed

 

[MoniintheMiddle]

Are you falling out of love or are you not feeling him at a particular time?

 

[mz tracy 25]

Are you falling out of love or are you not feeling him at a particular time?

No it's not that I'm just not feeling him. Like today for instance; I feel like maybe it would be best if we went our seperate ways. But yesterday I was on him hard and it was all about him. I don't know what it is.

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

What are the good things that keep you there and what are the bad things that make you give him the pink slip

 

[MrsAriannaAmbers]

I don't think thats love...its indecisiveness/insecurity...its like when you are lonely you need the emotional connection and then when you don't...your not interested for a day or two...

I try to be consistent most of the time...everyone has their days...however if its a constant thing that you do...then its not fair to him...you have him on a roller-coaster and its not healthy for you, him or ya'll...its like your settling for him while waiting on the next best thing.......think about how often are you doing this...and some kind of way you need to break this cycle

 

[tinkat]

Believe it or not many people deal with what you are going through. Its like a inner struggle with yourself. You desire that intimacy but then you want your independence, indiviuality. The key is to learn how to balance those things out and face what you are fearing.

 

[mz tracy 25]

Just Not A Pretty Face..I have many reasons for both...

Reasons to Leave:

1.He's not financially stable.
2.I feel like he needs me more than he wants me.
3.I don't like his family (especially his mom) and even though she abused him physically as a child, he's still somewhat of a mama's boy. It seems like he wants him to end up miserable just like her.
4. He doesn't seem to have the drive or ambition that I look for in a man.
5. He's not good with money.
6. He doesn't make me feel "safe." The other day at the bar we were playing pool. This guy kept on flirting with me and he didn't say anything. The guy even asked HIM if he could play pool with me, and my SO said, "when I'm done." WTF?!?!?! He said after he said it he felt like a punk and he should've said hell no. I'm thinking, "yeah, you look hella soft right now."
7. Somewhat diff religious background.

I know ya'll are thinking, "wow, and you want to stay because......???" I'm asking myself the same question also.

Reasons to Stay:

1. We share unique experiences from our past that we thought we were alone with.
2. No criminal record.
3. No children.
4. He's spiritual.
5. We've only been together for a month, and he's 26 (I'm 25), so I'm thinking I need to give him some time.
6. Attractive with good crayon.

 

[mz tracy 25]

I don't think thats love...its indecisiveness/insecurity...its like when you are lonely you need the emotional connection and then when you don't...your not interested for a day or two...

I try to be consistent most of the time...everyone has their days...however if its a constant thing that you do...then its not fair to him...you have him on a roller-coaster and its not healthy for you, him or ya'll...its like your settling for him while waiting on the next best thing.......think about how often are you doing this...and some kind of way you need to break this cycle

Thanks..this really hit home.

 

[intergalacticartist]

Girl you need to let go of him! Uh uh!! A man with no drive is so unattractive. He just LET that guy say those things to you? How is he supposed to protect his family?
Nah son.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

Not discounting ur feelings...but it sounds more like infatuation 2 me...

I think when ur feelings r @ their strongest its when u think about the possibility of what could be...and when they r @ their weakest it seems like ur thinking about all the things he needs to work on (maybe seeing the situation 4 what it currently is)...

I read ur reasons to stay/leave and IMO he seems 2 only have what ur looking 4 in the short term...looks 2 me like ud b settling...

u also mentioned u guys have only been 2gether 4 a month...that's a very short time but I don't think "waiting it out" to see if he has more of the characteristics u want would b a good idea...the reasons u mentioned 4 leaving would b things that probably wont change...so waiting wouldnt do much...IMO

 

[MrsAriannaAmbers]

Just Not A Pretty Face..I have many reasons for both...

Reasons to Leave:

1.He's not financially stable.
2.I feel like he needs me more than he wants me.
3.I don't like his family (especially his mom) and even though she abused him physically as a child, he's still somewhat of a mama's boy. It seems like he wants him to end up miserable just like her.
4. He doesn't seem to have the drive or ambition that I look for in a man.
5. He's not good with money.
6. He doesn't make me feel "safe." The other day at the bar we were playing pool. This guy kept on flirting with me and he didn't say anything. The guy even asked HIM if he could play pool with me, and my SO said, "when I'm done." WTF?!?!?! He said after he said it he felt like a punk and he should've said hell no. I'm thinking, "yeah, you look hella soft right now."
7. Somewhat diff religious background.

I know ya'll are thinking, "wow, and you want to stay because......???" I'm asking myself the same question also.

Reasons to Stay:

1. We share unique experiences from our past that we thought we were alone with.
2. No criminal record.
3. No children.
4. He's spiritual.
5. We've only been together for a month, and he's 26 (I'm 25), so I'm thinking I need to give him some time.
6. Attractive with good crayon.

And there ladies you have it...

Babay...you gotta get past that meat......you gotta look past that asap so you can look at your list for what it really is...which isn't amounting to much...at this point...you can do much better...

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

Ok this is just my thoughts..take it with a grain a salt..On the why you should leave reason the money issues were red flags to me.I know that you have only been together for a month I dont date guys to just color..I look at marriage material.I don't know if your on that level about that but it a thought..if a man can't manage money or ppl in general it speaks to their character and attention to detail.The lack of drive and ambition and momma boy thing is red flags bc he will not be a good provider.God forbid you get knocked up from coloring he will allow his mother to talk him into not taking responsibility.

Now the good things about him to me would make him a good friend..ie the past issues you both have that makes you bondable..I would look at all your cards and determine if you are just looking for a good time then color away if your into that but if your looking for substance in a man then he may not be the one with the charactertics he is presenting.

Just Not A Pretty Face..I have many reasons for both...

Reasons to Leave:

1.He's not financially stable.
2.I feel like he needs me more than he wants me.
3.I don't like his family (especially his mom) and even though she abused him physically as a child, he's still somewhat of a mama's boy. It seems like he wants him to end up miserable just like her.
4. He doesn't seem to have the drive or ambition that I look for in a man.
5. He's not good with money.
6. He doesn't make me feel "safe." The other day at the bar we were playing pool. This guy kept on flirting with me and he didn't say anything. The guy even asked HIM if he could play pool with me, and my SO said, "when I'm done." WTF?!?!?! He said after he said it he felt like a punk and he should've said hell no. I'm thinking, "yeah, you look hella soft right now."
7. Somewhat diff religious background.

I know ya'll are thinking, "wow, and you want to stay because......???" I'm asking myself the same question also.

Reasons to Stay:

1. We share unique experiences from our past that we thought we were alone with.
2. No criminal record.
3. No children.
4. He's spiritual.
5. We've only been together for a month, and he's 26 (I'm 25), so I'm thinking I need to give him some time.
6. Attractive with good crayon.

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

And there ladies you have it...

Babay...you gotta get past that meat......you gotta look past that asap so you can look at your list for what it really is...which isn't amounting to much...at this point...you can do much better...

I heart you Mrs.Ambers..you are a straight shooter

 

[southernchocolate]

And there ladies you have it...

Babay...you gotta get past that meat......you gotta look past that asap so you can look at your list for what it really is...which isn't amounting to much...at this point...you can do much better...

Girl, I need a friend like you in my life!! Just str8 shooting and no p$*#yfooting around.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

RED FLAGS.....

Clearly you're with him for companionship only. He's a quick fix. A placeholder until the real thing comes along. Trust me, You're Just Not That Into Him.

That inconsistent feeling you is your mind telling you NO. You want more but you settle. When it comes to matters of the heart, let wisdom should be your best friend. Thinking he will change is no good.

Leave him now. This will be in the best interest of both of you.

 

[Supervixen]

After one month of dating, I don't think it's normal to feel like this about someone you could sustain a LTR with. I think you're infatuated with and getting the good dxck from someone who largely isn't your type.