I don't know what to do! Help/advice needed
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RocStar
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I say stay away and keep your distance. It is going to be really hard to remain friends if you both have feelings for each other.
Also, I think that if he really wanted to be with you, he would. The other girl is just his girlfriend, right?
He wants to keep the door open with you, just in case things don't work out between him and his lady.
He is kind of sending mixed messages, but I have found when someone really likes you and wants to be with you the message is very clear and you don't have to decode it.
You are nearing 10 years with this friendship/relationship...I say just let it go and move forward. It seems like it may be holding you back.
Also, I think that if he really wanted to be with you, he would. The other girl is just his girlfriend, right?
He wants to keep the door open with you, just in case things don't work out between him and his lady.
He is kind of sending mixed messages, but I have found when someone really likes you and wants to be with you the message is very clear and you don't have to decode it.
You are nearing 10 years with this friendship/relationship...I say just let it go and move forward. It seems like it may be holding you back.
Tamster
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GIIIIIIIIRL what a story! Whew! You are dangerous... dude still has feelings... Strong ones. Are you interested in him (honestly)? it seems that he cant just be friends with you.
I would keep a nice distance until he's single..and then see what happens.
You guys have a lot of "coincidences"....
I would keep a nice distance until he's single..and then see what happens.
You guys have a lot of "coincidences"....
darlingdiva
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Girl, STAY AWAY! This situation is full of drama and unnecessary stress. He's made his feelings and intentions quite clear through his actions.
lacreolegurl
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He's in a relationship. I would leave it alone because it sounds like a lot of drama waiting to happen. If and when his relationship ends, if you are still single, then maybe.... And is he still with the same girl who was calling him that evening years ago? If so, that a lengthy relationship. Something is keeping him there.
I personally would not pursue it.
I personally would not pursue it.
Babysaffy
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Once you break a guy's or anyone's heart like he says you did it's so hard for them to forget that.
It sounds like he must think you only call on him when you have no better options so he's trying not to get too close to you again..
I say you should leave it be and move on..When Harry Met Sally comes to mind...there seem to be a lot of coincidences with you guys meeting but maybe it's not that deep at all just one of those things.
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It sounds like he must think you only call on him when you have no better options so he's trying not to get too close to you again..
I say you should leave it be and move on..When Harry Met Sally comes to mind...there seem to be a lot of coincidences with you guys meeting but maybe it's not that deep at all just one of those things.
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sj10460
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Thank You, you may be right. I probably don't want to see it.
I know right, it's like we're being pushed in the same direction. That's what's making it so confusing.
I'd leave it alone OP. You don't want to come off as desperate for a "friendship"
True, but he found me on fb. I don't even call him since I notice he didn't answer my calls. I've had plenty of relationships and he's never thought about or mentioned in them. His girl hates me, that speaks volumes to me. I don't even know shorty.
One other thing to add.... 510 area code is Oakland/Bay Area.
Yea, he's from the bay, yadadamean go hyphy lol
No, it's not the same girl from that night. I don't know his girlfriend but she apparently knows a lot about me.
He told me after Katrina he got real depressed and thought about killing himself. She was there for him when he needed a friend (this is after he told he was falling in love with me and I distanced myself) So, he feels a sense of obligation to her, but no doubt he loves her.
nikki2229
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I think he's confused and so are you.
He clearly has feelings for his girlfriend and some lingering feelings for you as well.
When he confessed his love to you, you said it creeped you out and you avoided him. Now it seems like you're in the same place but through all of the partying and things you've done, you don't mention yourself having had a relationship. He probably senses that you only like him for companionship and not a full fledged loving relationship and is probably apprehensive in starting something with you.
He clearly has feelings for his girlfriend and some lingering feelings for you as well.
When he confessed his love to you, you said it creeped you out and you avoided him. Now it seems like you're in the same place but through all of the partying and things you've done, you don't mention yourself having had a relationship. He probably senses that you only like him for companionship and not a full fledged loving relationship and is probably apprehensive in starting something with you.
sj10460
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I honestly, think this is what it boils down to. I think he's afraid to explore the possibilities with me because he's been hurt by me before. And his girlfriend is his comfort zone, he trust her. She's always been there for him and he doesn't want to gamble on his security.
As far as my relationships go, I had a boyfriend when I met him and that's part of where my reservations came from. The other part was that he was falling in love with me, and it was too fast and soon for me. Since I've met Jay, I've dated multiple guys and had serious relationships.