I Don't Get It (Long) - Vent

Good for you walking away!! You have zero obligations to him. His reaction was also a major red flag.

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idt you shouldve turned down the other guy bc of this jerk. he can end up being the one for you. and theres really nothing to say about this situation. thats how dating is, i think you handled it very well. being with him would've just been a big waste of time anyway, hes too controlling and unreasonable. good thing it was only 2 wks
 
It's good that you walked away. Him getting that upset over you just saying what's up is a major flag. And if he can't commit then he has to go. I've been with someone like that and all it does is suck your soul. Don't compromise and take your time.
 
He makes things that should be simple, dramatic and complicated. That was too extra. Just imagine how he would've behaved in a relationship. Glad you followed your gut
 
Girl he was just cray. Sweetie and baby in just two weeks is too fast for most people. Meeting family and alladat so soon? Please don't let this busta take you out of the dating game. I'm sorry you are so frustrated.
 
I think you did well and did the right thing. Dating is complicated. Please don't let this discouraged you. You now have more warning signs to add to your list to use for next time. You were fortunate to only have to use up 2 weeks :yep: If he hadn't shown out early, I can't imagine what he would have been like in another 2 weeks. Fortunately most guys can't hide their true selves for very long.

Maybe in the future you can laugh at this. I know I have had some dating experiences that really make me laugh now.

Take a break if you need it but don't let it discourage you.
 
He's crazy. Good thing you found out early. Reminds me of a situation I was in years ago. Met a nice guy at the gym. He was good looking and an attorney. We made plans to see each other on a Tuesday after work. I got home after work and waited for him to call me..and waited. Finally, like 9:45, 10:00pm he calls and says 'So are you ready?' I told him it was a little late and I had to get up for work in the morning. He proceeded to go the *** off! He starts yelling and cussing and telling me I had led him on. I hung up. He called back. Like a fool I answered and he continued to yell at me. Needless to say, I took the fact that he was so enraged over me not wanting to be picked up for a date at darn near midnight to mean that he probably had some other issues I needed to avoid. Most people can hide their crazy for at least a season or two. Your guy couldn't last two weeks!
 
AB200 said:
He's crazy. Good thing you found out early. Reminds me of a situation I was in years ago. Met a nice guy at the gym. He was good looking and an attorney. We made plans to see each other on a Tuesday after work. I got home after work and waited for him to call me..and waited. Finally, like 9:45, 10:00pm he calls and says 'So are you ready?' I told him it was a little late and I had to get up for work in the morning. He proceeded to go the *** off! He starts yelling and cussing and telling me I had led him on. I hung up. He called back. Like a fool I answered and he continued to yell at me. Needless to say, I took the fact that he was so enraged over me not wanting to be picked up for a date at darn near midnight to mean that he probably had some other issues I needed to avoid. Most people can hide their crazy for at least a season or two. Your guy couldn't last two weeks!
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Wow, who knew "that" was hiding under good looks and an attorney title. I guess they come in all shapes and sizes. You're right; he probably had some other issues.
 
AB200 said:
He's crazy. Good thing you found out early. Reminds me of a situation I was in years ago. Met a nice guy at the gym. He was good looking and an attorney. We made plans to see each other on a Tuesday after work. I got home after work and waited for him to call me..and waited. Finally, like 9:45, 10:00pm he calls and says 'So are you ready?' I told him it was a little late and I had to get up for work in the morning. He proceeded to go the *** off! He starts yelling and cussing and telling me I had led him on. I hung up. He called back. Like a fool I answered and he continued to yell at me. Needless to say, I took the fact that he was so enraged over me not wanting to be picked up for a date at darn near midnight to mean that he probably had some other issues I needed to avoid. Most people can hide their crazy for at least a season or two. Your guy couldn't last two weeks!
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Dude is use to women going for this foolishness and when you checked him it blew his mind. Don't be surprised if he starts sniffing around again. You gave him a challenge and men love to conquer at all costs. Good for you.
 
laCriolla said:
looks like you dodged a bullet
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Yes, and please dont let him rope you back for another discharge of the gun.

That's the type of guy who will keep you on egg shells. Been there, it's frustrating and if you are a rebel at heart like me, not used to that type of dude, you will explode back and he will play victim.
 
Yeah, he showed his crazy. Glad you spotted it. But do not give up on men due to this nut.

DH is working with a guy who I pegged as a nut a couple of weeks ago. He got all pissy over an email that I sent explaining that he did some work for DH incorrectly. DH spoke to the guy later and he said something like "Your girl sent me an email" in an angry tone. DH corrected him and said "my wife" and that shut it down.

This same guy got all pissy at an event this week, so much so that he took the subway home instead of staying through the event and driving back with everyone else. The last straw was him catching an attitude with DH over some other work that fell through, unrelated to DH.

I told DH that he was crazy and likely single. Turns out I was right about the single part.

Men that are easily upset or agitated about small things concerns me. It makes me think they are possessive or potential abusers.
 
Hmpf. Men.

The guy that I initially ignored ... the one who almost entered the picture after crazy dude? He is in my field. He invited me to an organization's picnic earlier today. I said no. Later this evening, he tries to invite himself to my place for a movie. My jaw dropped. What in the ....? :nono: How do you make that leap? I barely know you.

I want to find a t-shirt that says, "Don't talk to me unless you are marriage-minded". I'd wear it everyday.

Anyway, I'll probably be a regular in the RT if this continues ...
 
First the argument was stupid. But secondly I was amazed that he was so intuitive that you didn't want to call him baby because someone was there. He didn't know it was your gf but still intuitive. He must of got burned before. You know when you pick up the phone and you are not paying attention to whom you are talking to cause you are distracted.

Anyhow you it didn't seem you were really into him. So no loss on your side that you ended it. Good luck and do not despair, why despair there are many men in out there.

Pray to God to keep your FH safe and happy and bring a speedy path to each other.
 
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