Listen to these ladies, they know what they are talking about. I did the same thing you did when I went to college. My mother had always done my hair at home and she was great with my hair. Anyways, I went off to college and not knowing any better, I started doing the boxed relaxer on my own hair and overlapped, never moisturized and almost most of the time never used conditioner, leave-ins, oils and thought I could use hairspray on my already dead hair cause I saw my white friends doing it all of the time, oh and I forgot, curling iron everyday. My hair was a mess!