I used the extreme leave-in but like I said it was just to light for me, in the sense that I had to use quite a bit to feel the difference, while Rusk just does it all fo me!! maybe you could take a look at the sham&con ...cause I really feel the difference after the sham, it just calms my hair down so well, then when the I use the con, its even better.....if you can get your hands on samples you could do that be4 you invest in full bottles...( just my humble suggestion)