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[leona2025]

Ok ladies it's been a while since I really dated. Like 10 years and I was never much of a dater then. I've date a couple guys in the past year and didn't find them compatible for whatever reason. So here's the thing. I'm trying to figure out if this guy in my class likes me. I feel like a complete idiot. Ok here are a couple instances that make me think he likes me.

1. I was joking with him one day because he lives pretty far from our school and I told him I was thinking about him when I got home because it took me minutes to get home and it took him an hour. His response was I'm just glad you were thinking about me.
2. I catch him staring at me all the time and when I look at him some times he just shakes his head and I mouthed what to him and he just shakes his head.
3. He asked if I was single and I said yes and then he asks so you're saying you don't have a boyfriend?
4. His body language. When he talks to me he leans in pretty close and turns his body to me. I read that was a sign. lol

My bestie encouraged me to ask him out, but if he said no and I was reading all the signs wrong that would be ego crushing and awkward. Then the guy is not generally the type I attract (physically). He is a single father of a 19 month old. No baby momma drama. She doesn't live in our state. He seems sweet, ambitious, and a doting father. What do you ladies think?

I already like him and he is.

 

[Briabiggles]

I'm kind if in the same situation as you. I'm waiting for him to ask me. In the mean time, get to know him through casual conversation.

Sent from my iPhone. Excuse the typos!

 

[leona2025]

I'm kind if in the same situation as you. I'm waiting for him to ask me. In the mean time, get to know him through casual conversation.

Sent from my iPhone. Excuse the typos!

I know I don't want to seem overly eager. I walk slow out of class so we can chit chat while walking to our cars. We haven't even exchanged numbers are anything. I don't know how to indicate that I'm interested, but not be too eager.

 

[Evolving78]

i would just flirt or throw something out there and see if he bite. i wouldn't directly ask him out.

 

[leona2025]

i would just flirt or throw something out there and see if he bite. i wouldn't directly ask him out.

shortdub78 Throw something like what?

 

[Evolving78]

i would just flirt with him. butter him up, so if you do decide to make a move, he will know what is up. tell him how good he smells, or you really like how he puts his wardrobe together. tell him you feel comfortable around him. wear something cute (but don't over do it) ask him does he like the scent of your perfume.(that way he can sniff all on you! )

ask him to a coffee house. this way you can talk more and feel him out. when you see him, tell him you got a taste for (your favorite hot drink) and that you aren't ready to go home yet. ask him to come along.

i hope this helps, i'm just coming up with stuff. i have never asked a man out, but i did a lot to let the man know i was interested. i can be very friendly and flirtatious.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I wouldn't ask him out.

Just stay open and receptive. If he really wants it bad enough he will ask.

Ps I am no relationship expert by any means obviously.

 

[DarkJoy]

ask him to a coffee house. this way you can talk more and feel him out. when you see him, tell him you got a taste for (your favorite hot drink) and that you aren't ready to go home yet. ask him to come along.QUOTE]
yeah this ^^^!!

[since you wait for him after class anyway]
You: Think I'm gonna go get some coffee, wanna come?

Dont be too crushed/disappointed if he cant. as you say, he has a 19mo daughter so he MAY have to deal with her. As a single mom, take that excuse for real. Babysitters are harrrrd to come by!

After that, no matter how he responds, I wouldnt ask him anymore. You cracked the door open, so now its up to him to push it the rest of the way.

 

[BGT]

How is he a single father if the child lives in another state?

 

[DarkJoy]

I thought the child lives with him, but the mother is in another state?

 

[leona2025]

Yes the child stays with him and the mother lives in another state. Thanks for the tips

 

[leona2025]

Ok would this be appropriate? The teacher is having an optional open lab tomorrow. The guy came and asked me if I were coming and I said no..Then I asked if he was and he said yes.

I changed my mind and decided to go to the lab, but I'm thinking since it's optional and he lives an hour away he probably won't show up. I plan to go to the lab and then if he doesn't show up when I see him again casually mention how I didn't see him in lab and say I had decided to come because he said he was.

When I relayed this story to my bestfriend he said the guy had provided me with an opening by first asking me if I was coming and I completely missed it, lol. He also said I should say how I really want to go to see Paranormal Activity 4, but that I'm scared to go alone. I . That sounds soooo weak, but he said I needed to be super clear.

 

[hopeful]

Now that's a nice "hint," you want to go see Paranormal but are afraid to go alone. But my goodness I would not ask any dude out, just the thought of doing that turns my stomach. Whatever you do, don't start thinking he needs your "help". He's a grown man and a father, he should know how to ask someone out if he wants to. And I wouldn't want a guy that was too shy or scared to ask me out just no. Flirting and smiling is enough, you don't want to be the pursuer.

 

[hopeful]

I wouldn't go to the lab though.

 

[virtuenow]

Ok would this be appropriate? The teacher is having an optional open lab tomorrow. The guy came and asked me if I were coming and I said no..Then I asked if he was and he said yes.

I changed my mind and decided to go to the lab, but I'm thinking since it's optional and he lives an hour away he probably won't show up. I plan to go to the lab and then if he doesn't show up when I see him again casually mention how I didn't see him in lab and say I had decided to come because he said he was.

When I relayed this story to my bestfriend he said the guy had provided me with an opening by first asking me if I was coming and I completely missed it, lol. He also said I should say how I really want to go to see Paranormal Activity 4, but that I'm scared to go alone. I . That sounds soooo weak, but he said I needed to be super clear.

Sounds like he used a door opener [albeit weak, but door opener nonetheless-- maybe he doesn't have game]. I like for a guy to be more direct than that. But a better response to those questions is, "I'm not sure if I'm going; or I don't know yet". Then he's supposed to invite you or insist you come. Not sure about this guy. Maybe he's trying to feel you out; some guys need you to invite them -- so shortdub gave some good tips on how to let him know you noticed him noticing you and you want to give him notice that you noticed him too... Sorry I'm being silly (it's late)

 

[leona2025]

Sounds like he used a door opener [albeit weak, but door opener nonetheless-- maybe he doesn't have game]. I like for a guy to be more direct than that. But a better response to those questions is, "I'm not sure if I'm going; or I don't know yet". Then he's supposed to invite you or insist you come. Not sure about this guy. Maybe he's trying to feel you out; some guys need you to invite them -- so shortdub gave some good tips on how to let him know you noticed him noticing you and you want to give him notice that you noticed him too... Sorry I'm being silly (it's late)

virtuenow If only i could take you guys with me. I like to be direct, lol, but only if I know there is like 0% chance of rejection. I don't know what his game is like. I haven't seen any from our dealings. I did go to the lab today and he didn't show up. So I will tell him Friday (jokingly) that I'm upset with him because I came to lab only because he said he was coming and then he didn't show up. lol. This seems so childish. I like it a bit tho.

 

[virtuenow]

@virtuenow If only i could take you guys with me. I like to be direct, lol, but only if I know there is like 0% chance of rejection. I don't know what his game is like. I haven't seen any from our dealings. I did go to the lab today and he didn't show up. So I will tell him Friday (jokingly) that I'm upset with him because I came to lab only because he said he was coming and then he didn't show up. lol. This seems so childish. I like it a bit tho.

Yes, the dating game is fun